Hi all,
I don't really know anything about benefits but please do help if you know anything about this. My best friend finally left loser ex (they were engaged, never married) and has ended up a single mum living in a bedsit hand to mouth with her DC (loser ex's child). Ex earns £200K a year not in london (so seems like more than £200k as no London cost of living), owns a £400K house, small mortgage.
Anyway, when they split up the benefits people/calculator told her that the most she gets is £900 a month. For rent, bills, nursery, food, car costs, etc. And the rent is really high in the area where they live. I paid for her to go and see a lawyer as I thought it was unfair that the ex shouldn't at least help get her somewhere to live or give more considering he's on £200k a year. The lawyer said it was highly probable that the court should make him give her a deposit or help more with the rent (as he wants them to stay in same area to make it easier for him to see DC). But she didn't want to create bad blood so never took him to court. And also the lawyer couldn't guarantee that this would happen.
Just asking for advice, could she really get more from him? She's also getting the usual benefits too but is really struggling. I feel really strongly that he should help more as he's living the life of riley and she's having a really hard time in a bedsit which now she has to move out of as the landlord selling it so she has to find moving costs, new place etc and really stressful. Am I expecting too much or is this just normal and how it is if you split up and not married?
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To encourage BF to take ex to court? benefits advice if possible!!
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toddlermom · 14/02/2017 22:49
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