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AIBU?

To tell pregnant ladies we've been around about ds being ill?

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bummymummy77 · 09/02/2017 13:17

Almost certain ds has 5ths disease/slapped cheek. If he breaks out in a rash on his body as well as face I'll be 100% certain.

We've hung out with five pregnant ladies in the last week. I think I should tell them ds probably has it as it can be pretty dangerous in pregnancy. Dh says I'm being ridiculous, way ott and everyone will think I'm crazy. I'm sure they'll all be fine but medical advice if you're pregnant and have been exposed is to go see a doctor.

Aibu and wwyd?

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Cloeycat · 09/02/2017 13:20

As a pregnant lady I think I would like to be told... but not sure if actually do anything about it unless I happened to have an appt that week

BlackeyedSusan · 09/02/2017 13:21

tell them that there is a possibility that he has been exposed to it and that you did not know when you met them .

FooFighter99 · 09/02/2017 13:21

Tell them, just to be on the safe side! I'd rather come across as being OTT than find out something terrible happened because of exposure to your DS.

Better safe than sorry

harderandharder2breathe · 09/02/2017 13:22

Absolutely tell them, then they can decide for themselves if they want to see a doctor or anything

Iggii · 09/02/2017 13:23

I would want you to tell me. If anything did happen to one of those women you would hope they had had the chance to see the GP in good time.

Iggii · 09/02/2017 13:25

Have just read the NHS info about it and I think you must tell them, as they can test the women and will offer increased monitoring of the babies if they are found to have it.
Would your dh not want that if it was you who was pg?

ilovechocolate07 · 09/02/2017 13:26

Yes tell them. Better to tell them now rather than them contracting anything and finding out your child possibly passed it on.

BlahBlahBlahEtc · 09/02/2017 13:27

You should tell them, then if they feel they need to they can inform the midwife or gp. I'm pregnant now and I'd like to know.

ThisIsANormalLife · 09/02/2017 13:29

Of course I would tell them. It's not OTT unless you make it OTT. Just a factual statement that it looks like DC has developed slapped cheek shortly after seeing them. You didn't know at the time, but though they should know now. That isn't being hysterical, it's being considerate.

Hope DC recovers soon.

HolesinTheSoles · 09/02/2017 13:44

Can't see why it would be OTT. If they don't care they can shrug their shoulders, it's not lie you're forcing them to do anything with the information. I'd definitely want to know if I were one of them.

paddypants13 · 09/02/2017 13:46

Tell them, better to be safe than sorry. It's not like you did it on purpose, these things happen.

bummymummy77 · 09/02/2017 13:47

Right. Thanks all! Dh is so fucking laid back about stuff he has a habit of making me feel neurotic about stuff like this.

Luckily they're all in later stages of pregnancy so the risk is less but will still tell them.

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SumAndSubstance · 09/02/2017 14:27

I'm a teacher and one of my pupils had this. I was advised to ring the doctor, expecting them to say not to worry about it, but they did an emergency blood test, which fortunately proved I am already immune (apparently most adults are, even if they don't realise they've had it as symptoms can be very mild). I think it is worst to be exposed in the first trimester though, so they should all be fine, but I would definitely tell them.

RhubarbGin · 09/02/2017 14:48

You absolutely must tell them! I caught this at 16 weeks from my own son and it can be critical for the baby if the mother hasn't had it as an adult. It turns out I hadn't and I spent two months having fortnightly scans and being very worried. Thankfully ds2 was fine but it was not a pleasant time.

Roomster101 · 09/02/2017 14:55

I think you should tell them so they can be tested but also mention that they will very probably be immune so they don't get too worried.

HoratioHornbag · 09/02/2017 14:56

I would like to be told. I was tested during my pregnancy because I'd come in to contact with someone who had it, but thankfully I was immune.

It's very common in childhood so hopefully they will be immune too.

Roomster101 · 09/02/2017 15:03

Although they should get tested I think the vast majority of adults will be immune as it is hard to stop it spreading - by the time you know you are infectious, it is too late. When DD had this, we only knew because her classmates told her. Just about everyone in her class got it but none of the parents did.

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