I am in a same-sex relationship. This came as quite a shock to my parents when I told them about it a couple of years ago, because so far as they were concerned, I was completely straight. I had been single for several years, was divorced with DC (teens) and had never discussed my sexuality with my parents before. Although they are not at all "old" in their views of the world, they reacted very badly when I told them I was in a committed relationship with a woman. They said awful things about how wrong and selfish it all was, and we had no contact for months.
Eventually I broke the ice, they met my partner (who is lovely), liked her a lot and we all moved on. I think they were still bemused by what had "happened" to their "straight" daughter but seemed to have accepted it. My partner and I both have good jobs, we love each other, and the DC are happy. (Conversely to my parents, the DC could not have been less bothered when I told them about this relationship.) So far, so good.
More recently, my partner and I have talked about marriage and having a child together. I cautiously told DM that this was on the cards and how much her support would mean to us. She was not pleased at all. Said things like "this will be a nail in your father's coffin" and "maybe your generation think kids turn out ok with same sex parents". I thought she might have some reservations, but I guess I'd hoped that they might not be so negative now that they can see that the reality is that everyone is happy and life goes on. But they don't agree with same-sex marriage and definitely not with same-sex couples raising children. I think they feel they've been good in accepting the relationship, but that marriage/kids is just too much and I am selfish to want that. AIBU to feel so upset by this and think they should be more accepting?
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Wanda354 · 07/02/2017 20:01
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