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AIBU to feel sad for no reason?

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catlover1987 Tue 07-Feb-17 18:23:40

I just feel so hopeless today and I don't know why. Just feel like I could cry. Not hormonal I don't think. Does anyone ever have days like this?

Slimmingsnake Tue 07-Feb-17 18:25:49

Febuary is a difficult month.all the joy of Xmas gone...a while till the spring..not much to look forward to.dark nights.cold weather..it's a yuk time of yr...enough to make us all feel down x

Itsmytemporaryname Tue 07-Feb-17 18:35:04

I felt like this too today and everyone in my team at work was either down or a bit aggy.
The atmosphere was really noticeable.

barinatxe Tue 07-Feb-17 18:41:56

Yes, all the time. People say why am I miserable if nothing is majorly wrong. It's more that I'm not happy because nothing is majorly right.

With me it is depression, I've had it since my teens and only got help for it when I was pushing thirty. I still get the feelings of sadness, numbness and feeling like life is passing me by (and I'm letting it). Those feelings are my default position. But at least I know why.

I would recommend you speak to a doctor about it. You won't lose anything by talking it through with them, perhaps you will be able to get treatment (talking therapy or medication - they don't try to "force" you onto medication if you are against the idea of it).

Certainly in my case it did me the world of good and I wish I'd seen a doctor ten years sooner. I just put it off because I assumed it was a phase I'd grow out of. But things like depression won't always go away on their own.

Perhaps try a questionnaire like this one. The hopeless feeling is a classic sign of depression, but that alone doesn't automatically mean you are suffering from it. But a questionnaire like that might help you focus on whether you think it is something you need to see a doctor about (again, personally I would recommend you speak to your doctor and tell them how you're feeling, especially if this is a regular occurrence.)

Feelings such as you have are nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn't mean there is something "wrong" with you. But if your natural thought pattern leads you down this route, then you can be helped to learn ways to challenge your thought processes and cope with occasions where your natural thought patterns are unhelpful to you.

ellalouise123 Tue 07-Feb-17 18:45:40

I feel like this every February, which is weird because most people feel down in January but I've noticed for the past 4 years I have felt miserable in February. I think it's because January for me is 'settling in' to the new year then after a few weeks I think 'okay I'm bored and fed up and nothing is going right'.

What helps me is writing a list of things you want to do this year, even things you think you can't/wont do, and then make small steps to achieving them. Also practise self care, do things that make you happy even if it's just little things like having a lovely long bath or meeting up with a friend. Do you have friends or family you could talk to about feeling like this?

catlover1987 Wed 08-Feb-17 08:59:48

Thanks all for your support and advice. I had a very busy January at work (just the seasonal nature of my job) and I think now the adrenaline has worn off, it's all just catching up with me. I'm feeling a lot more positive today though.

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