Some background. Our house (s) have been hit by cold and flu, D and V and various other illnesses since the second week of December. During that time I have had 7days off to look after either child (2 kids, 9 and 11), when they have been off school and a further two for me when I have been too sick to go in. Exh has taken 4 days working from home (paid), for child care reasons.
He gets paid a lot more than me and his job is more senior and secure, as I am on an agency contract currently.
Exh had our two children overnight last night and was due to drop them at school this morning before going to work.
He called me at 8.05 to say that dd1 was kicking off and could they both come back to my house and go to school from there as that might calm her down.
I agreed as I was still getting ready for work (had a big presentation to give at 11 but if I left at 8.30, the time the children leave for school from mine, that would still be fine).
Ex dropped the kids off on the doorstep, said hello and bye to me, and went off on his way to work.
DD1 came in and lay down. On investigation she was very hot and said she felt unwell. Dd2 said dd1 was up complaining of being hot in the night.
DD1 said she felt too unwell to go to school. I went to give her some Calpol.She said she couldn't have any as her dad had given her some already this morning.
I called ex to ask about the situation.He said he didn't know she was unwell, just thought she was having a stress and it would be easier for her to come to school from mine. I asked why, in that case, did you give her Calpol? He replied that he gave it for placebo effect.He said that dd1 was not up in the night so no idea why dd2 would say that.
He 'cant' come back to look after DD1 today because he has a lot on at work and has gone in on the train today as he is travelling somewhere else tonight from work, for work tomorrow.
I have therefore had to cancel my presentation (which was for something fairly
high profile) and take another day off.
Ex accused me of sounding annoyed on the phone, (I probably did a little bit and expressed a bit of doubt over him having no idea dd was sick), and although he said he could see why I might be annoyed by the situation, stated that he had no idea she was unwell and therefore it couldn't be helped.
AIBU to be slightly sceptical around him being unaware that she was ill, and annoyed at his handling of the whole situation? (Not to mention his apparent use of placebo calpol 😕 and the fact that I've now lost another day's pay and work are pissed off-which isn't ideal when you are hoping they will extend your agency contract).
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AIBU?
To be annoyed at exh over this mornings sick child situation?
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nigelforgotthepassword · 07/02/2017 10:24
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