Hi
I have namechanged but am a regular,just dont want to be identified in real life.
I have a long list of issues that are affecting me but instead of moaning and feeling miserable i need to take stock. Dont feel i can discuss all with anybone person in RL but i have told some people some bits. I need a good talking to.
Firstly,i hate my job. Its awful. Work load is unmanageable. People i work with are mostly vile and there is lots of low level bullying. I cant leave,well i could but im limited for travel reasons(see next issue after this).i trained for a long time to do the job and it pays well. I get very irritated by certain colleagues or situations and will voice this. However,not many peiple are the same as me and seem quite happy working in the environment. They seem mildly amused when i 'kick off'. Im trying desperately to not get involved with anything at work,cutting my hes and generally keeping myself to myself.
Second issue. I cant drive. Never had the need or the inclination. However,ive suddenly got to my mid 40's and realise i look a bit inadequate. Also i have realised how reliant i am on dp and i dont like this. Im very independent as a rule. Public transport to work is excellent so thats not a problem. However,ive started to catch sight of myself trudging along with bags of shopping and think i look pathetic. I cant take my four dc anywhere out of area,leaving it to do or negotiate with family of other parents making it look like they are part of some group im not part of. Discussing journeys and parking etc with no in ut from me as im a non driver i couldnt possibly understand. I attempted driving a short whike ago and i was spectacularly bad. It made me so anxious i stopped.
Next issue is im desperate for another baby. Something do agreed to approx 2yrs ago. However our sex life is crap at present. Very infrequent. Mainly due to work patterns etc. However i chart my cycle religiously but frequently miss fertile times due to hardly any sex. Do doesnt seem a bit bothèred that time is ticking away in the fertility stakes. This in turn,is making me resentful and not want sex which is a slippery slope and a silly game im playing. I discuss it frequently and he tells me i need to come to bed earlier(we have limited privacy due to a teen). He goes to bed ridiulously early. I could make an effort but i think why should i when he clearly doesnt care that im running out of time to have a baby. Hes a good bloke and we are happy but this is driving a wedge.
Finally,i think all these issues together are knocking my confidence. I feel although people think im a nice person and fun they also take the mickey a bit. Id like to be the type of person who is good at stuff and confident. However,i can see im starting to look like a bit of a scatty middle aged drip.
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To think i need to get a bloody grip and take control of my life
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Suntrap · 31/01/2017 10:17
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