We've been married a while and have young DC. I've known from the start that DH has quite a low libido and honestly it's always been a problem but lately it's much worse because we're both so tired. When we do have sex it is good but DH wants to do it rarely and only when circumstances are completely ok. He's comfortable, everything is 'sorted'. Ie never ever spontaneous more like 'I'll meet you upstairs shortly'. It makes me feel like it's a transaction and more like 'well physically I need sexual release every so often and it's this or masturbating'. It makes me feel really really undesired.
DH also never ever ever pays me compliments/makes me feel good about myself. I find him very attractive and tell him often. I honestly don't know when he last paid me a compliment. I don't think it's because his level of attraction has changed because he's never been complimentary.
This weekend we were a black tie type work event of his. We were sitting with a couple we're good friends. I heard the husband lean over to his wife and whisper really
Sweetly (and ever so slightly saucily) that she was by far the most beautiful woman in the room and kissed her. It was so intimate and lovely seeming. It made me feel really sad about my relationship.
I don't really know how to remedy this. It's putting me off sex to be honest because I don't feel attractive. I know deep down that DH deeply loves me and is attracted to me (I think) but it's hard to just be telling myself that. I do try and talk to DH about it and he listens. But as soon as we finish talking it's forgotten.
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To expect DH to fancy me and show it?
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MardiGrasss · 29/01/2017 22:50
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