To be a tad annoyed about dinner?

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

I knew I would be late home tonight, DH agreed to cook.

I got in 45 mins after him, he has so far been for a 30 minute shit and washed a few pots. Dinner isn't even started.

Given that dinner is a chilli and tastes better when it's been simmered, AIBU to think he could have made the chilli, then gone for his 30 min shit and washed up if time after?

Now I have to wait for dinner, I'm starving and pregnant!

[DontTouchTheMoustache]

Get a takeaway....but don't share

[Soubriquet]

Don't you know a man's priority is always the toilet?

Annoying as hell

Lucky I got a man who is in and out in 10 mins tops

I'm annoyed about our dinner! Went to go and cook and the gas has been switched off with no warning for some building work down the road

[FeckinCrutches]

It's only 5pm, have a snack

[Albatross26]

Who has a 30 minute shit I can't even imagine what could take so long

My dp does this kind of faffing, so irritating, especially as I always consider what time he'll get in when cooking

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

But if I have a snack now I'll be too full up to enjoy stuffing my face once DD is in bed (she got so much chocolate and sweets at Christmas I would be a bad parent to let her eat them all, so I'm having to help her. Just don't tell DD!)

The 30 minute shit is his ritual, every day without fail. Unless we have visitors in which case he doesn't want to stink the bathroom up so he waits. So I know he chooses the time. Whereas I (Crohn's sufferer) have to go when I have to go, and can genuinely shit for 30 minutes!

[Blueskyrain]

It would still have been quite early for him to cook dinner surely? Ok, you've clearly got a child, but even so...

I say as a pregnant woman who hasnt even managed lunch yet and will be lucky to be eating dinner.by 9 tonight.

If you're hungry, just have a snack.

[PatriciaHolm]

What time do you normally eat?

[Whosthemummynow]

Why are their pots to wash up before dinner?

[BillSykesDog]

No comment on the situation, but congratulations on being 'a tad annoyed'. I do like a nice understated AIBU where the OP is not fuming or livid.

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

Dinner is normally 5-ish, depending on what we're doing, whether DD needs a bath etc. She really ought to have a bath tonight, but we won't have time now.

The pots are because neither of us could be arsed to do it last night! we only had beans on toast anyway as we ate a big meal at lunchtime. So last nights bits and breakfast pots.

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

Thanks bill. I'm not going to LTB over it either (his chilli is far too nice for that. Once you get it)

[FeckinCrutches]

No time for a bath? It's only 5.30!

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

Yes, she takes at least 30 minutes to eat, and she's only 4 so I like to have her in bed by 6:30. And I don't like putting her in the bath too soon after her dinner as last time I did that she was sick! (I suspect she has reflux but that's another story)

[Janey50]

What is it with men taking so damn long to have a shit? Time and again I hear about this and have witnessed it first-hand with my exH and my son-in-law (who habitually denies that he ever spends longer than 10 minutes in the toilet). Thankfully, I managed to get myself a DP who doesn't see the the attractions of spending 45 minutes sitting on the throne and is rarely in there for longer than 10 minutes. . OP order yourself a takeaway. But don't share it.

[FeckinCrutches]

Damn, my 4 year old goes to bed so late!

[Soubriquet]

My 3 and 1 year old are in bed for 6 so I get what you mean

They don't have a bath every night though

Had to abandon making fajitas and do spagetthi on toast due to no gas

[CrohnicallyPregnant]

Sorry for going quiet- but I was eating. Yay! It was delicious.

DD doesn't have a bath every night either, but she didn't have one last night or the night before

Oh well, she's swimming tomorrow. That will get her clean, right?

(Of course she'll get a bath afterwards)

[Grenoble124]

This would be my DH all over. Never got a decent meal cooked even when pregnant. I cook, he walks the dogs. He is currently having his bathroom time. It can go on for up to an hour. I really can't understand it!

[GashleyCrumbTiny]

On DH's night to cook he used to sit about picking his toenails until he felt hungry, then start flicking through recipe books preparatory to going to shop to buy ingredients to start cooking. Used to drive me batshit! He doesn't do this any more.