Ever since I can remember, certain noises/smells/textures have upset me to the point of tears. I remember having to go past a dog food factory as a child, en route to visit relatives. I would climb into the footwell of the car and cry until we got past. Yet I'm ok with horse poo! Another thing was when my mum used to twist bits of tissue in order to dab at a cut knee or something - the sound would make my teeth hurt and I'd start heaving. I remember getting a smack for the "silly behaviour", but I genuinely couldn't help it. It was like q red mist coming down, only not of anger, of totally unfounded disgust and desperation to escape from that thing
As a teenager, I was always getting in trouble for "rudeness" because I'd sneak out of family events to go and hide in a toilet. This was usually because of a noise that was making me anxious to the point of hyperventilation, and it was either that or full blown panic attack. Nobody ever seemed to understand though- it was assumed I was being a silly drama queen
As an adult, it isn't so bad, probably because I now have control over where I go and for how long. However when I'm stressed it flares up again. DD was whining today, I could feel myself tensing up. She went upstairs and dropped the toothbrush mug in the bath- it was an accident, but the noise absolutely ruined me. This sounds awful, but in order to calm myself when this happens, I pinch myself or twist a handful of hair. The feeling grounds me. Anyway I was doubled over, twisting my hair and breathing because I felt like the alternative was curling up on the floor and sobbing uncontrollably. DD saw none of this by the way, she was upstairs. DH came in and asked what was wrong, I said "the noise"(he knows how unsettled I get)
After I'd got myself back together, he said he'd been thinking about it and he wondered if I maybe had some form of phobia to sound.
If I'm honest, I presumed everyone had tjis- nails down a blackboard, right? But DH says they really don't.
I know I sound like a drama queen and probably a horrible mother, but DD doesn't see this side of me and it wasn't that I was angry at the sound. when it happens, it feels like a punch in the gut, plus total panic, nausea and desperation and it's taken me a long time to have it under control.
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IncrediblySparklyFairy · 08/01/2017 14:33
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