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Feel so alone sometimes, haven't got any real friends, no-one to confide in

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Sweetbella68 Wed 04-Jan-17 18:20:14

Ever since I moved up here 15 years ago to be with my partner, I haven't made any real friends. I've got work colleauges and aquaintances, but I feel so alone sometimes. My partner and I have had a really rocky relationship ( I left my husband to be with him), and I can't really talk to him about anything, most of the time we just sit in separate rooms. He has anger issues and I don't even like him much anymore. My 3 children have grown up and although they live at home they have their own lives and friends. I feel so sad sometimes. I had good 2 friends before I moved up here, but they are 130 miles away and we just exchange the odd e-mail now. I have 2 little dogs and they have become my only companions, which is really sad! I almost feel I deserve this for leaving my husband, who hadn't really done anything wrong. I am 48 years old. Can anyone else relate?

Rubyslippers7780 Wed 04-Jan-17 18:22:56

Are you considering separating?
You sound really unhappy. If things were OK with your partner would you still miss friends or are you looking to change everything? Start focusing on what you actually want and then start planning how you get there.

TheOnlyColditz Wed 04-Jan-17 18:24:05

You know what, people make mistakes. You can pack up and go home if you want to. be alone, but near your friends.

Also joining crafting groups is a great way to make friends, or choirs and amateur bands if you're musical

walkinganhouraday Wed 04-Jan-17 18:24:13

No real advice but I didn't want to read and run.

You sound a little bit depressed tbh. Are there any clubs nearby you could join? Not only to make friends but just to have a change of scene from sitting in other room from your husband.

You're far too young to while away your life feeling so lonely.

Does your husband know how you feel? Could you have a chat with him to see how he feels about your life together?

ScrumpyBetty Wed 04-Jan-17 18:25:05

Sorry to hear OP. Have you tried joining an evening classes or volunteering once a week? Can be good for making friends. I know it's a bit of a cliché to say try and evening class.
For me, I made loads of friends when I joined a running club 6 years ago, and I also used to volunteer for a charity once a week and met some lovely people through doing that.

Please don't believe it's your fault and that you deserve it. What nonsense. You deserve to be happy and have fulfilling friendships and relationships flowers

Ilovecaindingle Wed 04-Jan-17 18:28:23

Same boat really.
Dh and 3 dogs.
No friends
45.
Do have kids but nobody outside of our family. No parents or siblings either.
Maybe start a saddies club?
But I would likely be too shy to show up. ..

lanbro Wed 04-Jan-17 18:30:13

Where is 'up here'?

Sweetbella68 Wed 04-Jan-17 19:18:04

Oh, first time on here, didn't realize I would get replies so quick! I already play in a brass band 2 evenings a week, but same thing, we go for a drink afterwards but that's it, they all seem to have their own friends outside of that. And I work as a community carer the other 5 nights, which I enjoy because I get to chat with the clients.I think the crux of my lonliness is my relationship ( we're not married)It's crap!. I moved from Wiltshire up to Shropshire and I love it up here, wouldn't want to go back, but we live in a 4 bedroom house which I could never afford the mortgage on my own. So I just try and get on with it.Most of the time I manage, but sometimes it gets me down. We have separated before, but just drifted back together. Just felt the need to get it off my chest, as I have no-one else to confide in. Thanks.

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