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To ask dd's dad to look after her at his own place?

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takemetothehamptons Wed 04-Jan-17 10:06:20

Dd is 2 and is yet to stay overnight at her dad's as he shares a house with 3 other people and lives an hour away. So instead whenever I've gone out on an evening he's been looking after her at my place and staying overnight.

This isn't working any more because we just don't get on. AIBU to ask him to look after dd either at his mum and dads house or at his own house?

NapQueen Wed 04-Jan-17 10:09:56

Yanbu at all. He needs to either make provisions for overnight care or arrange daytime care only (with a reflection in his maintenance payments)

Allthebestnamesareused Wed 04-Jan-17 10:11:01

No of course you are not being unreasonable. Tell him that is how it has to be from now on especially as he has the options of staying with his parents.

Rainydayspending Wed 04-Jan-17 10:32:42

It sounds as though you both could use a clearer boundary, keeping your lives more separate will help on keeping things more civil over your dd. Definitely go for it.

takemetothehamptons Wed 04-Jan-17 10:34:22

Yep boundaries are definitely needed. The only thing that bothers me is that his mum and dad smoke so the house isn't the cleanest. They dont smoke in the house when dds there though.

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