Warning, very long winded but needed to vent some frustration
So im 21 weeks pregnant with our first child. Im 20 and dp is 23. The pregnancy was a surprise and it took us a while to adjust, dp was very unsuportive of my emotions and mood swings saying that it was just pregnancy and that i take the fucking piss when it comes to moods and im worse than anyone hes ever known bearing in mind i had just come off anti depressants a few weeks prior to finding out we were expecting.He also called me names like narcissistic.
We were quite on and off for a few weeks. I work full time and he only works 20/24hrs a week, I spoke to him how important it was for him to get a fulltime job with baby on the way, he didnt activly look and when id bring it up he would get defensive and say i was being over bearing then go cold with me.
I decided to move back home with my mother as to give us space as things were getting really bad. He would go thru phases of wanting me then not wanting me, showed little interest towards the baby. Anyway a few weeks later he decided me and the babyb is what he wanted he was gonna stop smoking weed, start making an effort for me and baby, make effort to find job etc so i gave him another chance and for weeks things have been better i thought he would grow up abit
but here we are weeks later hes still not activly looking for a job, hes spent about £10 towards the baby so far still spends money on junk eg xbox games, cigarettes complains if work ask him to do extra hours, complains if he has to work more than 4 hours a shift and will leave after working 2 hours if they allow it meaning he gets paid less than 20 hours a week whilst im still working long hours, he always acts worse off.
Hes still smoking in the house even tho ive asked him to stop as dont want baby stuff around smoke! He promised not to let me down and come see me on our anniversary night and let me down last minute yet he thinks simply saying sorry cuts it and all should be forgiven. When I message him how im feeling he just reads and igmores me for the rest of the day. If we chat in person he will either get defensive and walk off or tell me what i want to hear but not follow thru.He wants me to move back in but i really dont think its a good idea for the time being. Am i being unreasonably naggy? Will he ever bloody grow up? Im starting to loose my patience now.
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user1481490957 · 30/12/2016 21:53
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