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To expect DH to do at least SOME of the jobs I have lined up?

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MilkTrayLimeBarrel Fri 30-Dec-16 09:35:42

He is on the 17-day Christmas break. He works hard and I don't begrudge him lots of time to work on his own projects and hobbies, but there are a few (literally 6 or so) small jobs around the house which I have been asking him to do for weeks and he promised he would do over the hols. I know there are still 3 days left but I am getting tired of holding my tongue and not nagging him about the jobs. How can I persuade him to get on with them???

monkeywithacowface Fri 30-Dec-16 09:39:05

If they aren't jobs you can do yourself then just say "I appreciate you want to relax over the holidays so I think I'm going to pay and get someone in to do those jobs in the new year"

I generally find that the prospect of having to pay someone to do a job he can do himself is a great motivator for DH.

NewNNfor2017 Fri 30-Dec-16 09:40:01

Do them yourself or pay someone else?

You can't force him to do something and it's clear from his behaviour that he's not willing to.

What that says about his commitment to your joint life/home together, only you know.

Birdsgottafly Fri 30-Dec-16 09:48:57

What are they? Is he generally engaged with the running of the home? If so, then really you should both want them done.

I used to have to go down the "ill find someone to pay to do them", because my DH wasn't as bothered by 'aesthetic' stuff, as I was, but would sort out plumbing/floors (which was his trade).

MilkTrayLimeBarrel Fri 30-Dec-16 10:46:20

They are mostly electrical jobs which I have no idea about. I do all the jobs around the house which I am able to. He means well generally but just does not see the aesthetic angle of anything!

TheNaze73 Fri 30-Dec-16 10:47:52

Why don't you learn the electrical jobs maybe at night school in the new year? Another string to your bow

oldestmumaintheworld Fri 30-Dec-16 10:48:25

I agree with monkey - tell him you are phoning an electrician this morning.

Artandco Fri 30-Dec-16 10:49:21

That would annoy me. Most people work,they still have to 'work' outsid elf main job sometimes. It's not a gruelling 17 days of hard labour. But an hour a day is normal

Munstermonchgirl Fri 30-Dec-16 10:51:12

Why does he know more about electrical jobs than you do? If it's because it's his trade, then it'd be like a busman's holiday for him. I'd be a bit pissed off tbh if my dh expected me to do certain jobs that he's just as capable of learning

witsender Fri 30-Dec-16 10:56:25

Why? If the OP does all the other ones?

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