This weekend I am going to a family christmas a few hours away with my parents. Stressfull all round as my dad can't drive at the mo so mum is driving - she's nervous and he makes her more nervous - back seat driver, except in the front seat . I offered to pay and insure myself so I could drive - no.
Anyway, dad's car is the smelliest, dirtiest car ever. Dog hair, grime, years of dirt. I suggested we get it cleaned as no one wants to spend 4 hours plus in traffic in it. No he said. We'll clean it.
'We'll clean it' means mum will do it this week, along with all the other busy christmas stuff.
So, i booked it in for a valet today - the works, full shampoo and set! Have had to do this covertly as dad wouldn't let us. Mum and I are going supposedly shopping and it's booked in this pm.
My mum is bricking it; she is genuinely shit scared of how my dad will take it. This is just another example of his childish, spoilt behaviour. Feel so sorry for my mum. Anyone else would love it - nice treat of having your car done out like new.
Now I'm bricking it as I know he'll go mad as we've gone behind his back. Considered cancelling but all paid and booked in advance.
Love my dad - he is generous, kind and a great character. BUT - he's of another generation where everything is wife's work, and he was spoilt being brought up by all women.
As I've got older, I've become more aware of how we all tip toe around him. We've had some smashing rows the last few years because I've finally been able to stand up to him and call him out on his behaviour.
This week is getting more nerve wracking by the minute. Dunno whether to just cancel and lose the money anyway. I'm stressing about whether the seats will be dry fgs!
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rosenylund · 20/12/2016 11:49
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