It's recently dawned on me that I don't actually have any true friends. Don't get me wrong, I lead a happy & full life & have my own family whom I love dearly, I have an OK job & a hobby that I enjoy. My days are full & I feel satisfied with my lot, with just this exception.
I have a couple of people who I consider to be friends, but over the last couple of years I have noticed that they don't actually seem that interested in my life. When we meet it is mostly discussing their lives / problems & there seems to be little interest on any aspect of my life.
I have a friend who has recently moved area & although I've known her for many years I am questioning how much of a friend she really is / was & wondering if our friendship will now fizzle out. I have always felt inferior to her in many ways, she's always been very financially stable (whereas I have not) and I've always had this feeling that she felt superior towards me. I've had some tough times in the past (miscarriage, depression, difficult housing situation) and even though I tried to be open & honest throughout these times I've been left feeling a bit bitter if I'm honest as I feel that she never really offered any support or understanding & just minimised any problems I was having.
She is very materialistic & does have snobby tendencies, which are not traits I like. Underneath all that though there are times when we seem to be on a level & do have good open conversations, although over the years these have got less.
Sorry if this all sounds a bit garbled, I'm kind of thinking out loud.
I suppose my question is, do you have many true friends or just mainly acquaintances?
Also, do you think it is just natural to drift apart as you grow older? Are you happier with time to yourself or are friends really important to you?
Also have any of you met any dear friends in later life & how do these relationships compare to earlier friendships?
Really interested to hear opinions.
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Grannysmithy · 13/11/2016 20:07
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