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AIBU?

To not have called the police? Any police or social workers who can advise please?

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WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 13:47

I put a thread up yesterday about a bully trying to intimidate me. Had positive reponses but a couple of commenters mentioned 'assault' and 'ring the police'.

So I am going to describe exactly what happened and hope for some legal advice.

Whilst away for a weekend with 2 women and their children at an amusement park, the one woman took issue with me and i have no idea why. She isolated my DS from the other children, refused to speak to us, blocked my DS from speaking or interacting with the other children. At one point the other mum and I had stopped to look at the map, my DS went over and stood in front of the buggy (those plastic things you can hire) to talk to his friends. I noticed he kept stepping back as she was pushing it forward, i didnt really think anything of it and other mum was reading the map. But i noticed she did it again. She was shoving the buggy into his shins to get him out of the way and didn't say a word. I called him over to me and she went stomping off.
After everything i had a gutsful and removed us from the situation and tried to salvage the day as DS was upset.
This was back in May.
She now just glares at me constantly.

Was this assault? Should I have reported her?

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Underchipsandpeas · 31/10/2016 13:48

Back in May???

Why on earth didn't you tackle her about it there and then?

SooWrites · 31/10/2016 13:51

She sounds unhinged but I don't think it's a police matter.

Technically, yes, it was 'assault' however as it was so long ago and there are no injuries or witnesses the police would be hard pressed to do anything. As it is even if it was reported at the time I doubt anything would have become of it.

MerryMarigold · 31/10/2016 13:52

I'd be inclined to let it go and not make it into a big deal (for your son's benefit). I'm assuming you don't associate with her anymore.

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 13:52

Because my priority was DS. I had planned to confront her when kids weren't around but didn't see her for months

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VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 31/10/2016 13:53

No, not a police matter. Ex copper.

You could have intervened and asked what she was doing, but no doubt she'd say she didn't realise that he was there

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 13:54

Unfortunately, i see her at school runs. I just ignore her and the other mum. But i did snap at her yesterday as we were at a halloween event off school grounds and she tried to intimidate me

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MerryMarigold · 31/10/2016 13:54

What would her version of the story be back to the police/ social worker etc?

mouldycheesefan · 31/10/2016 13:56

I think the Police will have zero interest in this. 🙄

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 13:57

Thank you Vivienne
It sounds bad but whilst i was fuming at the time I didn't think it would be taken seriously and would end up my word vs. Hers. And poor DS wouldn't know what was going on!!
I think the commenters yesterday freaked me out as it had crossed my mind to report her

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 31/10/2016 13:57

It sounds really unpleasant, and she sounds unhinged, but the best thing you can do now is just not have any contact with her. As a police pensioner, I would say that in these situations, even at the time, unless you have proof in the form of other evidence or witnesses it is your word against hers, so nothing that can be done. Police don't IME prosecute for common assault anyhow, which is what this was.

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 13:59

MerryMarigold I have no idea what she would say. But it would be interesting to hear as at the beginning of the break she told me not to put any pics of her up in FB as shes not meant to be doing things like pushing buggies and running about due to her "disability" and disnt want to get caught

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QuinionsRainbow · 31/10/2016 14:16

she told me not to put any pics of her up in FB

Why on earth would you want to do that?

2kids2dogsnosense · 31/10/2016 14:16

Woop

In that case I would shop her! Get her hauled up in front of the people who put the SS into DSS - it would serve her right.

If she'd fallen out with you - fair enough (though rather childish) - but to be unkind to a child is just nasty. What a horrible bully she is. Did the third woman in your group say anything?

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 14:24

Quinions i was just taking pics of our break. Not her specifically!

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Peach9876 · 31/10/2016 14:33

I'd get any pictures you have of her out and about and see if you can report her for fraud.
I'm on disability at the moment but hoping an operation is going to sort it so I can walk more than a few steps without pain again. As soon as I can walk more than 20m I will call the PIP people and inform them. I'm hoping they will tell me to carry on and call back when I can walk more than 50m as from what I've seen my payments wouldn't change until I can walk 50m without stopping.
People like her are why people like me have to go through stupid amounts of assessments which caused me to be laid in bed for nearly a week and poor DP had to take time off work to help with with toileting (not a nice job for him at all) and for payments to be reduced.

CremeBrulee · 31/10/2016 14:50

Sorry you had a crap holiday and that one of the two women you went with took against your DS that must have been hard for him to understand.

But police involvement? No, I can't see any justification for that at all. Being a nasty twat isn't a crime.

Trifleorbust · 31/10/2016 14:51

Sounds like a horrible woman, but it also sounds like a huge overreaction to involve police.

Trifleorbust · 31/10/2016 14:54

And it was in May? Are you alright, OP? Seems worrying that this has been playing on your mind for this length of time.

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 14:55

Woop no she didn't. I spoke to her on the phone about 5 mins after we broke off and i told her i dont understand whats happened. She said neither did she. Never heard from her again. So god knows whats been said between. Just wish someone had told me

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BratFarrarsPony · 31/10/2016 14:57

if you call the police about this you would appear as unhinged as she sounds.

EJsqidge91 · 31/10/2016 18:34

What a horrible person to do that to your DS! I doubt police would be able to help in this situation, however I would casually take snaps of her when you see her doing something her 'disability' should prevent her from doing I.e. pushing a buggy, and report that to the relevant department. She sounds like a nasty bitch IMO.

WoopWoop200 · 31/10/2016 19:53

Thanks all. I am glad i went with my instincts and didnt ring police at the time then. I doubted myself obviously.
I do keep thinking i should report her about the whole disability thing but i worrg the pics will be obvious that its me and my that my DS will get stuck in the middle somehow. Plus i have no idea how to report these things. It does annoy me when shes said things like that to me then buys a brand new car, shops all week, gets her hair nails and tan done constantly and jetting off on holidays.

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BlueFolly · 31/10/2016 20:13

Wow, these disabled people are really raking it in aren't they.

NickiFury · 31/10/2016 20:37

Are you just wanting to report her for benefit fraud but trying to find a way to justify it to yourself by any chance?

2kids2dogsnosense · 31/10/2016 20:42

No, Blue - "disabled" people who are playing the system and fraudulently claiming benefits they aren't entitled to often are "raking it in".

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