To think a non min wage job is ok?(9 Posts)
I used to work full time with a good salary. Kids came along, went back full time then we moved countries. Third child arrived and due to small children and then discovering all three children have various health issues and/.or SEN I Now work part time in the evenings and weekends. I also home ed one child due to SEN. Whe all three children were in school I started a small business and had a number of clients. When one came back out of school I obviously had to scale back but I do still hold one client and still work part time.
It is a job that doesn't sound flash or ambitious, but does have direct reports and pays around £11 an hour. I did look into (before my business) going back into a day job per my career path but it paid les super hour plus we would have needed to pay childcare.
I recently got offered more hours at my evening job and I mentioned it to DH to see if it would fit in with his schedule. It does and we need to extra money but he was "oh well I suppose it depends where you want your carer to go" referring to my business.
Realistically, I cannot accept more clients at the moment due to home ed, but this will change next year when dc goes back into school. It just seems like he doesn't value my job. Even though I work hard and I enjoy it. I know it isn't flash but I think re doesn't realise that I would take a pay cut to go back to my career and is focussing on the 'min wage' appearance of the job, even though it isn't.
So AIBU to not go back to my career at this stage and stick with my current job?
Anyone? Or should I go get some ambition?
As the parent of three kids and two have autism one moderate and one severe I think you're amazing to be working.
Would your business bring extra stress aswell?
I think if you enjoy your job and you're happy and it brings in money that's brilliant. I think ambition is great but doesn't always fit into everyone's life in the same way. He needs to look beyond the salary aspect and appreciate that your business might bring more stress and not the monetary gains he'd expect.
No NBU to stick at current job; if you enjoy your work and it earn a lifestyle you're comfortable with, then I don't see the issue.
Yes, it's nice to have a "respected" job/career, but there are more things to take into consideration.
As I have mentioned on here many, many times - I worked in a call centre for over 10 years, it was actually a really well paying job (some advisers were sat taking calls on the best part of 35K a year - contract dependant) and it was also really varied and enjoyable - most employees stayed there for 10+ years easily.
So sometimes, it pays to have a "lesser" respected job. Ambition is great and I am looking to restart my original career plan (Law), but nothing wrong at all if you like your work and are happy with the wage you earn.
£11 per hour is by no means minimum wage, whatever the appearance.
You need the money, you are happy in the job, it fits your circumstances... Go for it! We all have a career we would like, sometimes that just has to wait a while so we can sort life and our kids out before we go chasing after that. (not saying chasing it isn't good! Totally can be! Just sometimes it has to wait)
YANBU, take the extra hours and hold your head up high knowing you are doing what your family needs.
Also would it be worth explaining to dp about the career being a drop in wages if you don't think he has realised? Maybe he just hasn't thought about it and doesn't want you to feel pressured into staying in your current job and putting your career on hold, but knowing you need the money didn't want to say not to take the hours either.
Thanks for the replies.
I did enjoy my career but it doesn't fit around the kids. Plus childcare is expensive and a nightmare with SEN kids. And I honestly think they do need me around. At the moment we manage on no childcare at all and the dc always have a parent around.
I think I will have to explain to DH I think that me working full time career would bring. More stress and expensive than it's worth. And I agree £11 is great!
especially in a career people look down on!
I am not a person to be awed by labels or brands or titles.
I will pick up my business clients when all the dc are back at school but for now I think I will just take the extra hours.
Is it cleaning by any chance? And no YANBU. Whatever pays the bills.
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