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AIBU?

to remind DH to brush his teeth in the morning

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seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 10/10/2016 11:35

For some reason (fuck knows how - it's gross) my DH regularly leaves the house in the morning without brushing his teeth. Is it unreasonable for me to tell remind him to brush them before he leaves the house? Am I babying him? Being overbearing?

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statetrooperstacey · 10/10/2016 11:41

Yes I think you would be both really, sorry. How do you know he doesn't and why does it bother you? As long as he brushes them before he gets into bed with you?

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 10/10/2016 11:43

Urghhh I'd be screaming down the road after him "Hey you filthy article if you EVER want sex again start cleaning your teeth properly!!!" as I hurled his toothbrush at him!!

myownprivateidaho · 10/10/2016 11:46

I remind my DH of this, as he also has this habit. Surely everyone helps their partners with their weak spots? I struggle with stuff that others probably don't think about and my DH helps me.

VladmirsPoutine · 10/10/2016 11:47

Tell him. That is unreasonable behaviour. Why does he think the rules of hygiene don't apply to him?
As you haven't mentioned any MH issues, I'm assuming he's just choosing to be a lazy slob.

mycatstares · 10/10/2016 11:47

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has this problem.

I have no idea why he doesn't do them in the morning, he does them in the evening?!

Gross gross gross

murphys · 10/10/2016 11:48

I just had to double check your post to check I was reading right. You said DH didn't you? As I thought you meant DS.

Really, he is a grown adult. Unless he has some issues as to why he doesn't brush twice a day, yes you are babying him. Surely he showers or washes or whatever in the morning, how can a grown man forget to brush his teeth?

I would get some of those tablets you put in your mouth that shows up all the plaque in purple. It was part of our heath lesson at school many moons ago.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 10/10/2016 11:54

I'm glad I'm not completely alone! And you didn't read it incorrectly, I do mean husband not child.

No he doesn't have any MH problems that would prevent him brushing. That's what I don't get - he showers in the morning but doesn't brush - why????

I know he doesn't because we have an electric toothbrush so I can hear it (or not) his toothbrush isn't wet, and have you ever spent the day in vaguely close contact with someone who hasn't brushed their teeth in the morning....?

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statetrooperstacey · 10/10/2016 12:00

Could it be because he doesn't like it? I don't like brushing my teeth in the morning the toothbrush sets of my gag reflex, add in foamy toothpaste and I'm sometimes heaving .

0pti0na1 · 10/10/2016 12:08

Would he use a manual toothbrush? Electric ones look a bit of a faff, as you have to keep recharging them.

Softkitty2 · 10/10/2016 12:10

Some people are just lazy, doesnt mean they have MH issues, him not brushing his teeth also affects the opinion of people he comes into contact with especially if he works. Like you said as a wife you help each other and you giving him a gentle reminder should be okay.

He may think his mouth doesnt smell but i highly doubt that especially if he drinks coffee.

My DH regularly sees the dentist and hygienist since he met me. Its a must as I book all the appts whether he likes it or not, is it babying? Maybe. But i'd rather have a husband who isn't toothless or repugnant.

TotallyOuting · 10/10/2016 12:18

I don't like brushing my teeth in the morning the toothbrush sets of my gag reflex, add in foamy toothpaste and I'm sometimes heaving.

I get this sometimes when I'm particularly exhausted. Drinking a glass of water first helps a bit, but really I just need more sleep.

Gatehouse77 · 10/10/2016 12:32

I've reminded DH in the past and will do in the future because it's in his interests for his health and our relationship.
I don't understand how he can forget...but he does. I've tried encouraging a set routine but he can't stick to it. Again, I don't understand it but I accept it.

spicyfajitas · 10/10/2016 13:19

I totally would. I used to work with me who stank of BO and could never understand why their wives didn't help them sort it out. It's the kind thing to do both for them and their colleagues. Good dental hygiene is even more important.

CliqueyUser · 10/10/2016 14:03

I often leave the house without brushing my teeth, but I have a brush and paste in my drawer at work and do it there - could he be doing the same?

AskBasil · 10/10/2016 14:07

Yes YABU he is a grown man and has the right to choose to be a dirty minger. I would LTB before I consented to accept the chivvying nagging mother role in the life of a man supposed to be my lover, my partner and my equal though.

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