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Behave on the bus!!!!!

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Redesul · 07/10/2016 18:11

I should start by saying I'm very patient and tolerable usually. I'm just in a mood today.

Stepped onto the bus this afternoon with my son, could have sworn I was in a fecking zoo. Two mums with three prams, no kids in them, just in the isle, taking up all the space, sat opposite each other, shouting to one another, two kids, maybe 4 or 5 years old, running up and down the isle, jumping on the seats, lying on the floor, screaming and shouting. Another toddler sat next to one of the women with a packet of jelly beans, throwing them all over the bus, other passengers are getting hit with them, woman isn't doing a thing about it, other one has a very young baby, barely able to sit itself up, on the seat next to her, sliding all about the place. She was just glued to her phone while chatting/shouting to her friend.

Meanwhile my son is sat nicely beside me, just looking out the window. One of the kids comes up to us, screams at us, makes my son jump. Still no response from the women, it was like they couldn't even see them! I was on the verge of telling the kids to sit down and behave. I've never told off somebody elses' child, it's none of my business, plus I'm too quiet and shy to do that, but this just grated on me. Needless to say we got off a couple of stops early .

I've seen kids messing about on the bus before and generally misbehaving, but at least the parents/guardians were TRYING to do something about it. Hell, mine can be a right monster on the bus at times, but I'd never let him behave like that

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Dontpanicpyke · 07/10/2016 18:15

No agree with you and it sounds annoying and potentially dangerous.

I don't get this toddler won't sit down crap on public transport They do if you make them just like they do in a car.

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AmeliaJack · 07/10/2016 18:17

I'm surprised the bus driver allowed that. Our local bus drivers wouldn't allow children to be running up and down.

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BlancheBlue · 07/10/2016 18:20

Drivers never kick anyone of buses usually.

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Redesul · 07/10/2016 18:21

The bus driver was a very small woman and was rather quiet, i suspect she didn't want the confrontation. The end of the route was the city centre, which was not far away, minutes at best at this point.

If my son wont sit on the seat, he'll be made to sit on my lap with me holding him, end of. Thankfully, he's 95% well behaved on the bus. I have had him literally screaming and hitting me once because he was over tired, but I just got off early and carried him home

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Redesul · 07/10/2016 18:23

5 minutes*

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SuperFlyHigh · 07/10/2016 18:26

Bus drivers are really tolerant. I've been on buses when a bus brakes hard and a child has gone flying (eg not sitting down) mum screams to driver who speaks to mum to tell child to sit down!

Right now there's a dad with a 4 year old noisy son and 7 year old daughter on my morning train - the dad and daughter have used train for ages and very well behaved, the son just won't behave! Dad is trying his best. Some miserable fucker complained the other day but son likes to run up and down train and won't behave (yet) I think it's a novelty for the son and he has got better!

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Redesul · 07/10/2016 18:31

SuperFlyHigh It is so much easier to be able to tolerate it when you can see the parent is really trying to get them to behave. It is sad to just complain about it instead of offering to help. People in the past have seen me trying my best with my son when he's being annoying, and instead of getting annoyed, they helped distract him and entertained him. This is not just on public transport. I can't thank those people enough

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AmeliaJack · 07/10/2016 18:31

Blanche they might not kick you off but they'd certainly have something to say about it.

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BlancheBlue · 07/10/2016 18:36

Amelia. Couple of routes I used to use in London often had trouble of one sort or another and at best the driver stopped the bus and called on the radio for police. The bus moved on 25 mins later when all idiots had fucked off due to boredom!

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SuperFlyHigh · 07/10/2016 18:52

I agree with you op I think a few parents are really awful, with the entitled parenting tags and most drivers can see when a parent is trying to help.

You've just got lazy parenting which can be par for the course in some places/on occasion.

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kalinkafoxtrot45 · 07/10/2016 19:07

YANBU. I was on a bus once and the parent was letting the kid ride up and down the aisle on a bloody scooter! The driver stopped the bus and refused to drive further until scooter kid sat down.

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