Okay this is basically adult friend drama. Who needs it right?
Been really unwell since last week. One of my closest friends (who is self admittedly not very sympathetic in nature) was initially great, dropped me some supplies in etc. Then rang me up on Sunday night, asked if I was returning to work that week to which I said no. My friend then said well that's fine if you're being genuine but not if you're just being a baby about it. I was taken aback to be honest as this friend had seen me so I would have thought knew I was genuinely really sick. I asked if that's what she thought (that I'm being a baby) and she said yeah I think it's a fair possibility.
Now, I hadn't slept for three days/nights at that point, also live alone which I think exacerbated my emotions as I felt at a complete loss with what to do with myself - and I got upset. Not a normal reaction for me when I'm well, and I asked her to apologise - said I felt absolutely shit and could she not accuse me of being a baby right now. She went on to say I was needy and needed to chill out - I admitted I was needy and overreacting but was just feeling so bad and could do with her being nice / supportive.
Left the conversation there pretty much, she laughingly told me to have a bath and go to bed. I text her the next day to let her know I'd seen my GP and had meds so would hopefully be happier soon. Have not heard from her since. We normally speak very regularly, everyday almost.
To give some perspective I have had to return to the doctor again since and am now on even stronger medications, have had a chest X-ray and been signed off for the next 10 days. I'm asthmatic so chest infections / pneumonia happen sometimes unfortunately, but just want to give some idea of how utterly awful I have felt.
I know I was unreasonable for getting upset at such a trivial comment, and feel bad that I might have appeared ungrateful after she had made an effort to drop things into me the day before; but I'm also a little hurt that she hasn't even seen if I'm okay since. I do a lot for her and I feel like when I need her she checks out 😞.
So do I initiate further contact or just leave the ball in her court?
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BirdBrain85 · 06/10/2016 19:53
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