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to think its impossible to be happy

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crazydil Sat 01-Oct-16 19:29:34

Im a sahm to two kids. Im extremely unhappy. I used to be happy and fun and outgoing. Now im stressed, tired and dull. This is not how i thought my life would be.
Is happiness nothing but a myth for sahp?

acasualobserver Sat 01-Oct-16 19:32:45

Into each life some rain must fall
But too much is falling in mine
Into each heart some tears must fall
But some day the sun will shine…

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Sat 01-Oct-16 19:34:14

Are you doing anything for yourself?? Or just everyone else's stuff?

Be a bit selfish is my advice stuff for you

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Sat 01-Oct-16 19:34:38

Things get better, as they get older, and it frees up more time for you. Hang on in there. Do you get any 'time off?'

MistressPoldark Sat 01-Oct-16 19:36:27

YABU and you have to believe it or you'll sink into a dark pit of despair! Life is tough, sometimes, but if you let yourself believe that you'll never be happy, then you really never will be.

A very good book I read a couple of years ago was Beyond Happiness by Anthony Sheldon. And look at the Action for Happiness website.

True happiness is about much deeper stuff than what is currently going on in your life.

Are you depressed? Be kind to yourself x

user1471449040 Sat 01-Oct-16 19:37:48

Would a change help? Hobby, walking, part time work, other? The best advice I hit was " do something different" when down, even if it's a tiny thing like eating something fun for lunch that's new or going to a different playpark, like the ones at iKEA or something = diff scenery on the way there. Something small to look forward to. Sorry to hear you're very unhappy. Being a sahp would be the hardest job and most frustrating imop

redexpat Sat 01-Oct-16 19:39:16

I read how to do everything abd be happy by peter jones. It helped. Can you get hold of a copy?

MistressPoldark Sat 01-Oct-16 19:44:25

Yes, doing something different is a great idea. And having things to look forward to. And actively watching out for things to feel joyful about - there's a lot to be said for writing down a list of three good things each day. It's so easy to start to only see what's crap about your life. And do things for yourself that make you feel joyful. Watch things on tv that make you laugh. Avoid negative things - don't watch the news or read sad books. Do things you find fun.

I once wrote a long list of things that I thought I might enjoy doing, from looking round a stationery shop without my kids to going to salsa classes. I made sure I made time to do something that I found fun every day, whether or not it included the children and whether it was very small (lying in the bath watching funny youtube clips on my phone for half an hour) or large(ish) (getting mum to babysit so my husband and I could go to the cinema).

Comtesse Sat 01-Oct-16 19:49:30

Nope this doesn't sound right to me. Everyone has bad days or weeks but life should be that painful. Have you talked to your partner? Or gp?

MuseumOfCurry Sat 01-Oct-16 19:53:20

How old are your kids, and do they sleep well?

HerFaceIsaMapOfTheWorld Sat 01-Oct-16 20:05:19

because op your whole life revolves around your children and whilst yea that is great you also need your own time to socialise and be a human being and talk to other adult human beings. You are allowed one night off without the kids.

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