My DD is 12, and when I was offered a fantastic job opportunity which entailed moving 3 hours away, a lot of discussion later, DD decided that she would rather stay with my DM during term time and visit me during holidays and I visit at weekends.
It was her decision, and she gave her reasons, and was sensible and mature about it, she didn't want to leave school, she had just started secondary school and didn't want to move to a brand new area and new school.
I always made it clear that it was her decision, and that whatever decision she made would not be set in stone, as it could be changed at a later date, and I would respect her decision.
As a child I was moved away from everyone I had ever known and it did have an effect on me, because I was really unhappy, found it hard to establish new relationships and really struggled.
DD has always spent a lot of time with my DM due to me working a lot and being a single parent and it was DM's idea for DD to live there term time.
I have had some negative comments about this situation, that DD is too young to make that sort of decision, that I should have either not taken the job (fair enough, I expect that some will have that view) or that I should have 'made' her come with me because she is my daughter and I should have 'put my foot down'.
What do you think MNers?
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Montalf · 30/09/2016 15:49
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