I work for a small company, and am in an office with 3 other women. I am the newcomer as I've only been there for 6 months and the others for a year or more.
I found two colleagues to be welcoming straight away and are nice women, but one colleague, I'll call her Jackie, made it obvious from the word go that I wasn't welcome and that she and the others are a group of friends and that there is no room for me.
I have long since stopped bothering to even try and engage with her on a personal level as all of my attempts when I first started were greeted with an abrupt answer or no answer. So I only engage with her regarding work now, which thankfully isn't much, and I try to have conversations with the other two on an individual basis. She never ever tries to make any conversation with me, she literally will not even say hello when I get into the office even if it's just she and I in there and if I say hello first. She talks a lot to the others about things that happened before I worked there, or about nights out that the three of them have had, or tries to arrange things in front of me for the three of them to do together. She regularly books tables for lunch for the three of them and never invites me.
The most irritating thing she does though is when I'm having a conversation with one of the others, she will always butt in, loudly and snappily to try to "correct" me. So if for example I said that the sky is blue today she would interrupt and say "It's NOT, it's GREEN".
I usually ignore her attempts to butt in and just carry on talking, but she is doing it more and more. This morning she must have done it to me 7 or 8 times, it's like she looks for holes in everything I say and then jumps in to prove me wrong.
It is frustrating as there is nothing concrete I can go to our manager with and say she has done, as it's all a bit underhand and subjective. She is a very tough, mouthy person who isn't afraid of a physical fight either so I think if I said anything back such as the classic "Do you mean to be so rude?" it would just escalate, so ignoring seems like the best tack for now.
We do have a second office next to ours, which has 3 men in it, and she is all friendly and nice to those too so they think she's great!
AIBU to be highly fucked off with her?
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MinecraftCube · 06/09/2016 13:22
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