party invite rsvps

[blueturtle6]

Sent out invites to a birthday party, party is in less than two weeks, had a response saying can I let you know nearer the time? AIBU to think two weeks is near the time, and you either say yes or no?

[Squeegle]

Is it such a big deal if you have a maybe from one person?

[GastonsPomPomWrath]

Yanbu. I think that's quite rude and flaky.

Just say "no sorry, I can't really spare you the time, I've got to have numbers for the venue/food etc"

[blueturtle6]

Squeegle, not usually but this person has had a go at me a few months back about a meet up, and I feel she's being hypocritical now.
Plus its a few hours on Sunday afternoon, I don't mind if she can't come (its an invite not a summons).

[Squeegle]

Sounds like she is being s bit hypocritical; but also sounds like she's a bit rude, so in her case YANBU!

[MrsHathaway]

I really wouldn't mind if she said "can I let you know later because ...

... I don't know exactly when is going to be"

... my dad has been unwell and I don't know how long he's going to be in hospital"

... we won't get DH's shift pattern until Wednesday"

but I agree that without those additions it just sounds like "Can I wait and see if I get a better offer?" which is definitely rude!

[LyndaNotLinda]

That's bloody rude. Unless she has something going on like MrsHathaway says (and then presumably she would have mentioned it?) then she's holding out for a better offer.

I'd be really tempted to reply 'Oh dear - is something tricky going on in your life?'