To start with - I don't have many friends, I like my own company and the company of my family. I have always found social situations uncomfortable and often say the wrong thing.
I have this friend. She is the mother of one of my DC's friends. Us mothers met first but only connected because of children the same age. We have very little in common but we can hold a conversation for hours. She is a single mum with lots of "friends" locally but no family near by. My DH and I have no family locally either.
We often do each other favours. I will look after her child when she needs me to and she collects my child from school when I need her to. Occasionally she will ask if I can drive her to the next town as she doesn't drive and public transport is pretty poor locally. This allows her to travel to meet her friends to go out for the evening. She often offers me petrol money for it but mostly I refuse as it only costs a couple of quid (I have accepted when I was really tight on money and actually needed it). We arranged to meet up tomorrow, she then asks we can go to the park near the gym so she can go to the gym while I look after the kids. I wondered if she was joking (conversation by text), does that seem likely to you? Do people do that? Then when discussing where to actually take the kids, she suggested a place that is about an hour away (I'm driving!) but then suggested somewhere closer, passing the first off as a joke. Left me wondering if she was joking at all or if she actually thought I would drive that far away.
Would you take it as joking or do you think she was serious? Am very confused. I have told her that if she wants to go to the gym, my child has a lesson tomorrow and her child can tag along and watch but that means she has to get up and dressed earlier than she does usually, she has said yes...
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good friend or being taken advantage of?
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kittymamma · 03/09/2016 00:36
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