Another Facebook one and I really hope I don't end up outing myself over this.
My DF died very suddenly and inexplicably earlier this year and naturally me, my DM and DB are absolutely, totally and completely broken hearted.
DF was a private and very security conscious person and had a Facebook account for looking at Brexit stuff (I know, i know, we all have our vices! -he very sadly died before he could cast his vote) but hated it when his immediate family put things up there about themselves or family situations. I got a stern talking to a few times.
Teenage cousin has been putting up very 'profound' statuses saying 'Thank you dear Uncle, RIP, I miss you, thank you for being an inspiration so much, i hope you are proud of me etc etc' and pictures of him on Facebook.
DM and DB are upset by this firstly because A. they weren't especially close- yes they saw each other on a fairly regular basis but my DF wasn't really 'like' that and B. DF would have been a bit annoyed about having pictures of him put up on Facebook and having things about him- like his profession etc. He was quite secretive about his life and didn't like social media.
Teen is also conversing on Facebook statuses with a friend of my DF who pretty much ignored DF in the last few years of his life. DF was offended by this and was quite upset that this friend wasn't 'interested' in him anymore. He spoke about it a lot and would have been annoyed that suddenly this friend has come out of the woodwork.
AIBU to have a word with the parents of this teen? My DB and DM are quite annoyed but I appreciate that we aren't the only ones grieving and that being a teen might be playing a part in this.
I don't want the memory of my DF tainted in anyway by creating bad feeling amongst the family. I know DF would have probably been a bit baffled by teen's reaction and tributes to him.
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judybloomno5 · 24/08/2016 00:18
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