Last Friday we were due to go to a "friends" house for tea. (I say "friends as one of the couple is an ex of DH's friend who we set up with someone else we know but both are more acquaintance than friend but we have seen them a lot since we set them up.)
I was not asked if I wanted to go I was informed after it had been arranged. DS was staying overnight at my parents so we had a very rare night alone and I said I didn't want to go as I would prefer to have some time alone and not have to be designated driver - something else which is assumed never discussed.
We didn't go and DH has just told me we have to go this Friday instead. I have said no.
Reason one, My parents cannot watch DS so we would have to ask MIL to have him but as she works saturdays he cannot stay over which will mean we will have to add the extra drive to collect him after the meal - always an extra 30-45 mins onto our journey home.
- Whilst these people are nice I have nothing in common with either of them and do not want to be spending every other weekend with them although do not mind every once in a while.
- MIL is having him next Friday as we have friends coming from out of town for a night out and I feel it is unfair to ask her to do 2 nights in a row on top of the 2 afternoons she already had DS.
- I am never consulted about these things just told and feel it is about time he realised he should be asking me first (have told him so tonight).
I feel a bit mean though - AIBU?