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to think encouraging a child to wee in the street is inappropriate?

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HeyNannyNanny Sat 06-Aug-16 15:41:41

I'm upstairs in my house with the windows wide open to air out last nights fish and chips let in the lovely sunshine.
We live on a reasonably busy residential street.
I hear a family walk down the road (think its Mum, friend/sister and son) chatting to each other loudly.
Suddenly I hear the Mum say "right, I need to make you do a wee" (actual words) and then "trousers down".
I glance out the window to see the son (perhaps 4 or 5 years old) in the middle of the pavement with his trousers and pants around his ankles, holding his willy and weeing into a plastic tub the Mum is holding in front of him.
She's encouraging him loudly ending with "that's right. Now shake it. Well done."

I completely understand that children always need to wee at the worst times but AIBU to think in the middle of the street, in plain view with cars driving past and people in their gardens is just a bit off?

There are 2 pubs which are less than 2 mins walk away, as well as plenty of countryside areas to surreptitiously wee in if its an emergency.

HeyNannyNanny Sat 06-Aug-16 15:47:28

I've just realised this makes me sound like a complete gawping gawper when I am, in fact, sitting right by the window and can hear everything and just glanced quickly blush not twitching the curtains blush blush

RainyDaisy Sat 06-Aug-16 15:51:52


If the kid was 2 years old and was potty training and desperate for a wee (and therefore couldn't hold it) then I could understand it a quick wee down a gutter.

But her coming prepared with a bottle and saying she needs to "make" him wee. Why not just go to the pubs you mention?

After many years on MN, I can only assume SEN

PickAChew Sat 06-Aug-16 16:10:34

Yanbu, particularly right in front of shops, or a bus stop all of 100 yards from clean public toilets.

BabyGanoush Sat 06-Aug-16 16:13:08

The thing that surprises me is the container!

usual Sat 06-Aug-16 16:15:29

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katemiddletonsnudeheels Sat 06-Aug-16 16:17:13

I think it's horrible, sorry.

Zippidydoodah Sat 06-Aug-16 16:17:24

Did she need to collect his wee for a sample, I wonder? Either way yanbu as he could at least have snuck down a side street or something. Very odd.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sat 06-Aug-16 16:18:29

Container is only like a portable potty and a darn sight more practical.

I wouldn't take my into a pub to wee it's not a public toilet.

Gileswithachainsaw Sat 06-Aug-16 16:19:44

If a kid can't make it 2 mins to a tree then either they need to.go back to pull ups ur and about or the parents need to re plan routes they are taking to.ensure that they make adequate stops on the way to areas suitable for relieving ones self.

It's all very well assuming "it's a short lived phase"

But there are ares in my town centre that stink off piss so clearly some people never grow out of Pissing in doorways and bus stations despite there being about a billion pubs and coffee shops....

MsKite Sat 06-Aug-16 16:20:58

It used to be more acceptable and I can remember seeing children being held above grids to do a wee. This would have been in the 80s. The container is weird though.

carabos Sat 06-Aug-16 16:21:24

I saw a mum the other day holding her DD out to wee. They were parked in a big layby off a country road, layby was surrounded by trees.

Mum was holding the girl over the road, facing into the traffic, legs akimbo, genitals open to the traffic. I've never seen anything like it before and I hope never to again. I can't imagine what possessed her. Revolting for anyone passing, awful for the child.

MrsDeVere Sat 06-Aug-16 16:24:26

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katemiddletonsnudeheels Sat 06-Aug-16 16:25:52

I've seen similar carabos; it's awful.

Beeziekn33ze Sat 06-Aug-16 16:28:18

Revolting?? Really??

PinkissimoAndPearls Sat 06-Aug-16 16:28:23

What did she do with the plastic tub afterwards?

<misses point of thread>

I think weeing in public is horrible, mind you I don't even like people eating in the street - I'm aware this is a minority view <clutches pearls> wink

Jasonandyawegunorts Sat 06-Aug-16 16:28:57

I have seen a number of threads like this on MN over the last few years.

Is there a pee in a container fetish?
normally when something pops up once or twice it's a poster with a weird fetish.

katemiddletonsnudeheels Sat 06-Aug-16 16:31:37

I'm the same actually pink

And shirtless men.

MrsDeVere Sat 06-Aug-16 16:31:43

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usual Sat 06-Aug-16 16:31:55

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wizzywig Sat 06-Aug-16 16:33:45

My son is terrified of the hand dryers in public loos so yes ill let him do a sneaky wee in public. He is 7 with sen

ootsideinbacktaefront Sat 06-Aug-16 16:33:48

Honestly I hate to be sycophantic but Mrs De vere you are spot on as always!! Foxes and dogs are pissing all over the place but heaven forefend a child does it.

Noonesfool Sat 06-Aug-16 16:36:11

My DS once had to have an emergency poo. The only thing I had one me was an empty Tupperware. So he pooed in it. Then I put the lid on and put it in my boot.

All the way home I was thinking "if I get stopped by the police, I've got a box of shit in my boot". No idea what I thought the police might do.


carabos Sat 06-Aug-16 16:36:19

It is revolting when their genitals are unnecessarily exposed. The mother I saw could have very easily taken her DD behind the car or into the trees, but she didn't. The child's dignity and privacy was not considered and nor were the feelings of anyone else around. It wasn't the weeing per se that was revolting, although that's not pleasant.

katemiddletonsnudeheels Sat 06-Aug-16 16:36:49

In fairness there are numerous differences between animals and humans.

Urinating and defecating are not for the public view as a general rule for the human race.

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