to think that if you contribute food to a house party it is up to the host what to do with it?

(13 Posts)
Tigerpaws57 Wed 20-Jul-16 14:32:38

Big event in our home area recently so had a houseful of friends/relatives staying (all invited themselves but we were happy to have them and share our home and easy access to event). I love entertaining and making people feel welcome in my home so did go to lots of effort/expense to provide a good time (good food, lots of wine, comfy beds, cuddly towels, bathroom goodies, lifts around town etc) but again happy to do so. Most guests were very lovely and appreciative and generous in bringing wine, chocolates, flowers etc. However, one guest who stayed at our home for three nights (new partner of a close friend so I know her well but not him) made huge deal of bringing large joint of organic beef which he had been gifted by a customer of his company (this was his only contribution to the weekend). As I was making a huge buffet lunch for everyone, this was a very nice addition which I prepared, cooked and served along with many other dishes. Half way through meal, friend's partner trotted off to my kitchen and returned with platter of remaining beef which he walked round magnanimously offering to each of my guests. (would you like another slice of the delicious organic beef I brought?). I felt a bit put out. The following morning as they were leaving, he actually asked DP if there was any of the beef left over as I think he would have wanted to take it home with him! Aibu to think this was a bit rude and insulting when I had provided all the food for the entire weekend and even cooked his precious offering?

TheNaze73 Wed 20-Jul-16 14:34:17

What a prick. YANBU in the slightest

ImperialBlether Wed 20-Jul-16 14:35:03

He hadn't even bought it, had he?!

The advantage of hosting is that you can be left with leftover food and drink - nobody should take that off you!

He clearly felt that you didn't appreciate his free gift (freely received and given) and wanted more appreciation - maybe a round of applause was required?

Arfarfanarf Wed 20-Jul-16 14:40:33

I'd have gushed over how lovely it was and wasn't it nice of his customer to give it to him for free and speculated over how much it would have cost had he paid for it and heaped praise on his generous customer.

EmzDisco Wed 20-Jul-16 14:42:40

You can't show off about and then ask to take home regifted beef! Sounds like a fool. I'd be so embarrassed if my DP behaved like that at a guests house.

EmzDisco Wed 20-Jul-16 14:44:39

Ah, as Imperial says maybe you were not appreciative enough, maybe send a thank you card and some flowers

Tabsicle Wed 20-Jul-16 14:48:58

Definitely VU on his part and very rude. I would have died of shame if that was my DP.

KoalaDownUnder Wed 20-Jul-16 14:50:08

Oh god. She was probably mortified. What a dick!

Pinkheart5915 Wed 20-Jul-16 14:54:42

Yes it was rude. Three days in your home being catered for etc and the cheeky sod wanted left over beef to take him what he needs is a lesson in manners.

maggiethemagpie Wed 20-Jul-16 16:03:52

I think it's the wanting to take it home which is worse than the offering it round thing. I can see how he wanted to show of 'his' joint of beef, that's a bit dickish but not too bad. But wanting to take home the leftovers is just total twat territory..

hazeimcgee Wed 20-Jul-16 16:27:18

I think even if he'd killed the cow himself, going in to the kitchen during a meal YOU produced to offer round thr sacred cow wpuld be rude

MephistoMarley Wed 20-Jul-16 16:29:12

Haha what a twat. I hope your friend was suitably embarrassed and dumps the fool

Ivorbig1 Wed 20-Jul-16 16:30:13

Lol at sacred cow.

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