My neighbour mentioned earlier that she feels guilty about using after school club and holiday club for her dc. It made me realise that this is something I hear quite a lot from working mums I know but just don't feel myself, or really understand why I might.
My job is quite fulfilling but I certainly don't feel I go to work just for me, or that it's akin to a hobby. It's what I do to provide for my family.
Nor do I feel I absolutely have to work to put bread on the table. I haven't done the maths but I guess at a push if I was made redundant we'd survive - we'd have a lower standard of living though. I happen to earn slightly more than dh but there's not much in it.
I haven't consciously weighed up whether I work just so we can afford holidays and after school activities and, if so, whether that's the right decision - it just doesn't occur to me to feel guilty. I happen to think my dc are lucky to live in a financially secure household, and I'm lucky to be able to earn a living doing something I find vaguely enjoyable, and actually dh and I work slightly less than full time each so the dc have a mixture of paid childcare (the same after school club as neighbour, as it happens), grandparental help and time at home with dh and me. It'll be the same in school holidays.
They seem happy and content. They might occasionally whinge about the idea of after school club, or me being the last one to pick up, but I don't take it to heart - they have a similar whinge if I ask them to tidy their toys or similar. Actually it's hard to drag them home.
Am I missing something? Am I selfish not to feel guilty?
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longestlurkerever · 06/07/2016 19:06
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