I was hoping to get some perspective and advice on my 4 year old son.
He can be absolutely lovely to be around, but he's always been hard work in terms of his energy levels (even by 4 year old standards they're high) and his attention seeking. I have realised I really need address this so he can entertain himself for short periods. Unless the TV is on (in which case he doesn't move for the duration of the show) he requires constant entertainment and interaction from me. Obviously this isn't practical, especially now that his brother is 1.5 years old and needing more from me than when he was a baby. DS1 also starts school soon so that's another reason to try and get this sorted.
The problem is when I tell him he needs to play by himself for a bit as I'm cooking/busy/working, he'll start acting up to get my attention. Most of this behaviour I ignore as he wants me to react. But then he moves on to being rough with his brother. Mostly it's rough play where eg he wrestles him onto the floor and squashes him or he'll chase him and push him over, sometimes making him cry. Obviously I can't ignore this so I intervene and will tell him to go sit on the bottom stair (time out but I don't really call it that) or go to his room to calm down for a few minutes, then when he returns I tell him to apologise to DS2. I've told him endless times how it's not kind to DS2, how he's made him cry, to play gently with him...
I start off pretty calm but after say the 5th occurrence I tend to lose my temper and shout at him, which I know I shouldn't but he really pushes me.
AIBU to wonder why he can't entertain himself and why he's so needy? DS2 is only 1.5 but much more self-sufficient. What I'm doing doesn't seem to be working but I can't think of how else to tackle it. He has plenty of exercise to blow off steam as we always go out for a big chunk of the day. I give him lots of attention and one-to-one time at other points in the day - if anything, DS2 is the one who doesn't get a huge amount of attention as most of it goes to DS1. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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To be frustrated at 4 year old DS's behaviour towards his brother?
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Littleredhouse · 02/07/2016 06:59
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