A friend of mine had a baby in the not too distant past, I want to make it clear I'm very happy for her, I love kids, her baby is adorable and I'm happy to socialise with her (and my other mum friends) and the baby. BUT she very rarely talks to me about anything other than the baby/husband issues, to the point that I wake up to a message about how baby slept, then what baby had for breakfast, lunch, dinner, how long baby sat up for this time. It's that or what husband didn't do, did wrong, forgot to mention, said in a way she doesn't like.
I really like my friend and I have tried to council her through husband and baby worries whenever she has them but I'm now finding it a bit too much. I do understand that having a baby is an exciting, life changing event but I'm just not interested in how many times she had to get up in the night or had to change a nappy. I find it difficult to cope with how many arguments and disagreements her and hubby have that I hear about and am expected to help with. I've told her I can't help and this should be dealt with between her and hubby at this point. It's getting to the point where I've started leaving my phone in my bag or the other room so I don't have to read the texts as its affecting my own relationship now having the contrast an pressure of someone else's relationship out on me. I feel like I'm being unsupportive doing this but I have no idea how to deal with this. How can I tell her that I love her and I want to help and support here but there needs to be some breathing room?
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user1466015966 · 15/06/2016 20:05
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