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To be avoiding calls from my dad?

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Moomichi Tue 07-Jun-16 19:26:57

My parents separated when I was 11. It wasn't really a big deal for me as I could see they weren't happy. Mum instigated it and dad would have got back with her at any point. I often feel like he still would. Mum remarried after having a few affairs with married men.
Dad remarried twice after my mum. Jumped in feet first and often felt like he proposed instead of a third date.
His family were pretty strange and he's been looking for the perfect family even though that doesn't exist.
Anyway he's currently going through a break up and for the past few months he's been ringing me up going on about it. I know far more than I need to know including stuff on their sex life.
I'm starting to dread speaking to him and I don't want to be that way.
Aibu that I don't want to be his friend? I have a family of my own including a young baby and I feel like he doesn't get that. He sometimes calls and then says grumpily 'ring me back when you can talk' and I feel like saying 'speak to you in ten years then'😱
I'm not good at confrontation and I know if I say anything he will sulk but I'm struggling with it a bit.

Arfarfanarf Tue 07-Jun-16 19:31:21

What about telling him that you think it's really inappropriate for a father to discuss his sex life with his daughter and although you do want to support him, you feel that kind of disclosure crosses a line.

If he sulks that is his choice. You cant avoid difficult conversations because the other party might pout.

Moomichi Tue 07-Jun-16 19:40:46

True, it's kind of what I do though! I just don't get why he thinks it's appropriate sad

wheresthel1ght Tue 07-Jun-16 19:43:04

He clearly has no one else to turn to. Yabu for being so mean. Talk to him and explain that certain topics are off limits.

Moomichi Wed 08-Jun-16 07:37:14

I have asked him before not to tell me that sort of thing. I know more about my parents relationship than I should. sad

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