About a year ago I met a guy on a dating site, he seemed nice enough, good sense of humour, managerial position at work, well travelled. We were messaging/texting daily for quite a few months, and he kept pushing me to meet him. This was tricky though, as I'm in Wales and he's in England - I've also got young DCs (he hasn't) and I'm busy running a business. I can't really get a babysitter outside of school hours as one of my DCs has severe behavioural problems, borderline ADHD. I continually explained this to the guy, but did say he could join me and my friends on my birthday night out last year, which he did.
I met him, we had a good chat and drunken snog and he seemed nice until he stormed off because my friend was quite drunk and talking a lot and 'breathing' on him, which he said annoyed him. He text me the next day saying he still wanted to see me again, to which I replied okay, I'll check my diary and figure out when I can take time off work/organise a babysitter.
The next day he text me again, saying I should go away for the weekend (abroad) with him. I explained again that unfortunately I don't have the option of leaving my children for an entire weekend and swanning off abroad. He said he understood, and said he'd come and stay at my place instead... now I'd said nothing about him coming to stay with me or even offered, I barely even knew him at this point so why would he think it acceptable to invite himself to stay in my home (with my children) for the whole weekend?!
Anyway, his persistence was starting to get on my nerves so I made excuses about work/kids every time he text and assumed it would fizzle out and he'd get the message. Nope. He continued to text me every few days, things along the lines of 'so, when are we going out drinking?' or 'are you coming to stay at mine this weekend?' and I'd have to continually explain that I couldn't. At one point I told him to eff off because he just wasn't listening to me. We stopped speaking after that, for a good six months.
Fast forward to last week, and I get a message on Whatsapp from him. I wasn't sure who it was at first as I'd deleted his number.
Him: "Hi"
Me: "Who's this?"
Him: "Wow, so you obviously deleted me then? It's X."
Me: "Oh right, erm no, just got a new phone so lost my contacts."
Him: "So, when are we going to have a night out again?"
Me: "I don't know..."
Him: "I like the treat them mean, keep them keen thing you do, so sexy"
I ignored him after this. Then just now I have had more messages through from him...
"Hi" "What are you up to?" "Are you there?" "When are you going to come and see me?"
I've ignored them. But Whatsapp doesn't seem to give me an option to block/delete his number. Anyone got any ideas on how I do this? Am I overreacting... he might just be a lonely guy who really liked me. Surely no one would go through this much trouble just for a one night stand?! Or he could be a total weirdo waiting to get me alone and chop me up into tiny pieces. I've blocked him on Skype and Facebook which I think he knows, but I just can't get him off Whatsapp! Maybe keep ignoring him? Tell him I'm getting married? Fake my own death?
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IHateSummer · 27/05/2016 11:46
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