DD is 3.7 years old. We just have the one child.
DD has got into a habit of telling dh tales on me when she thinks im in the wrong and he will come and bollock me in front of dd.
Simple things like if dd is not doing as she is told and i send her to the naughty step and she then refuses to go i will take her there myself. In order to do this i need to take her by the hand or arm and lead her there.
She will scream etc that i have hurt her even when i have barely touched her. After coming off the naughty step she will go straight to dh and tell him i hurt her arm.
Dh comes to me in front of dd and wants an explanation of the situation. If he feels im wrong he will tell me this infront of dd.
I do not like this as i feel dd is starting to understand that daddy will tell mummy off if i go to him.
I ve asked dh not to do this but he says he cant ignore and not act on something she tells him.
Another incident today is that i was trying to get dds attention and she wasnt responding to me as she was engrossed in something so i tapped her on the arm as you would to get someones attention and she then went straight to dh telling him i had pinched her.
I ve asked dh to back me up when she goes to him but he says he cant do that.
I feel that dd thinks im on the same level as her like her pre school friends.
It is worth mentioning that dh was badly physically and emotionally abused by his father (he has now no contact) who always told him to not tell tales on him etc. So he feels that he has to listen and act on things dd tells him as he knows what its like to not be able to tell people if your parent does something to you that you dont like.
Aibu to think dh should back me up in front of dd but then speak to me afterwards if hes not happy with the situation?
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AIBU?
To think DH should not teach our daughter that she can come to him if shes not happy with my parenting.
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SaveSomeSpendSome · 17/05/2016 13:02
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