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was Dp BU?

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Only1scoop Sun 15-May-16 11:27:52

Live in quiet cul de sac of 6 houses.

Get on well with 5 of the neighbours. Not in and out of each other's houses but wave 'hello' and brief chats outside now and then, and could rely on them in a crisis type relationship.

The other couple at top of close don't acknowledge anyone really. The woman will say 'hello' occasionally if her DH not present. They complained once that a small van was parked near their drive <not blocking> for 5 mins.... they have complained to other neighbour that their dog barked one night <never heard a thing>. When our neighbour opposite moved in years ago he politely asked if removal van could park outside their house briefly 'No' was the reply.

On the whole quite unapproachable.

Three eves ago our dd 5 was playing outside with Dp and her friend who lives in the corner. She put her little bike next to her friends dad's van on the ground <block paving bit of road outside her dads house> This is sometimes used as a turning circle by grumpy neighbours at top of close, so they can reverse onto their drive.

The woman is known to be a bit erratic with her driving....

She pulled into close
3 adults were there chatting, pulled the children out the way and she proceeded to drive in front ways, squashed dd bike and then reversed onto her own drive.

Bike was in bits she apparently walked down and said she 'hadn't seen it' to one of the other neighbours watching like shockDp didn't realise she had walked back down as he was trying to sort dd bike.

Dp said he hoped she might pop and apologise and offer to help with repair, although he said apology would have been enough.

She didn't do so, and Dp popped a really polite note with her two quotes for damage repair attached.

Her husband came around and basically said it's an accident and how dare you upset my wife and you can shove your quotes up your arse.

I didn't see any of the actual bike squashing, only neighbours and Dp and dd did.

Dp is on the 'it's the principle, it's our dd little bike'.

I felt more he should have just left it.

Was My DP BU for the quotes and note thing?

And if you have got this far I thank you for reading grin

QuiteLikely5 Sun 15-May-16 11:31:13

I think she was damn rude to not come and apologise.

The notes etc were a little ott but maybe you should claim on her car insurance now you have already started the ball rolling!!

OurBlanche Sun 15-May-16 11:34:21

I think that, grumpy and anti social as they are, they are probably right about the bike. That is if the 'block paving' is part of the public road. If it is part of someone elses private drive then they have trespassed and done damage... a criminal offence!

VimFuego101 Sun 15-May-16 11:34:49

Your DP shouldn't have had to ask, she should have apologized and told you she'd cover the cost, without being asked.

ShootingStar75 Sun 15-May-16 11:35:44

No I don't think your dp was BU but I think your neighbour was incredible rude! I can't believe she didn't apologise or offer to pay and as for not seeing it-what if it had of been a child?! If she was facing forwards I don't see how she didn't spot it on her way down. I'd claim off her insurance, her husband sounds like a bully-berating your dp for upsetting his wife but no mention of the little girl who is left upset and without a bike through her carelessness?! Bullying twat!

Only1scoop Sun 15-May-16 11:36:55


He said he knocked the door but no one answered, so posted the quotes and a quick note.

I personally would have left it I think.

Won't claim or do anything like that.

I just hate to have had confrontation with a neighbour.

FoxyLoxy123 Sun 15-May-16 11:37:33

Regardless of where the bike was, she needs an eye test if she didn't see something undoubtedly very brightly coloured in her path.

I would be trying to claim on her insurance purely to annoy them, how very rude not to even apologise!

FoxyLoxy123 Sun 15-May-16 11:39:18

She must have done it deliberately or literally be blind? Imagine if it was a small child sat there. Yes not a good place to sit but she could have driven over the bloody child too from the sounds of it. What a moron...just because it's a bike and might not have been located in the best place doesn't make it OK to squash it.

Feelingsolow12345 Sun 15-May-16 11:46:34

I'm confused with the block paving. I'm probably just being a bit stupid. if the block paving your dd friends dad's or public?

Only1scoop Sun 15-May-16 11:49:12

Thanks all

Yes her DH is quite an intimidating type. It's certainly the most I've ever heard him say in 6 years.

The block parking isn't someone's drive to be fair to her, but I'm just shocked she didn't apparently see it. As I said I didn't see it happen just glad the children were grabbed out the way.

Only1scoop Sun 15-May-16 11:55:18


Sorry it's hard to explain and I've probably not done a great job.

The whole little close is block paved.

The particular area which she sometimes uses to drive in to reverse is actually at the rear of someone's house leading up to their garage which isn't attached to their house. So it is kind of a communal bit IYSWIM.

Feelingsolow12345 Sun 15-May-16 12:02:53

ah I get it now. my nans old house was like that where the garage wasn't attached to the house. it was classed as her property so might be different in this case that's why I wanted to make sure.

I agree with other your DP wasn't bu. she should at least apologise. how could she not see the bike unless she purposely squished it. she should also offer to pay for it as it was her who damaged it.

ToucheShay Sun 15-May-16 12:59:54

Sorry,I can't picture the scene and whose drive is where, and where the bike was. Its probably irrelevant. You just need to say she drove into her driveway and clipped your DD's bike and caused damage.

If that is the case, you are entitled to call the Police. Perhaps if you can't come to an agreement with Mr and Mrs Arsehole suggest contacting the Police to sort it. Or just get your kids to play outside every evening to piss them off.

Only1scoop Sun 15-May-16 13:10:49

I have relayed your responses to Dp and thanks all.

I wasn't sure, but am feeling more confident that he hasn't made a drastic mistake.

Normally I'd be too terrified to AIBU but I've survived the gauntlet smile

<strutts off all confidently>

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