I'm new to this but have read a lot of posts so am prepared for the absolute truth (even if it's harsh) which is why I'm here...
Sorry! Long post!
I'm 32 & a mother of a beautiful 19 month old girl. I have a chronic illness & a nerve disorder which causes me intense & frequent pain that is hard to control. Fatigue is also a huge part of this.
As most of you will know, being a mum is hard work at the best of times but when constantly in pain & fatigued it's just that much harder.
I've been with my baby's father for 3 years & while our relationship is rocky at times we are still managing for the sake of her.
My question is, how much help should I expect from him? What's normal?
I'm a stay at home mum & he runs his own company from home.
I should also mention that I help him with his work wherever I can along with normal house work.
I look after our daughter 100% of the time. In the almost 20 months she has been alive, he has never put her to bed, never given her dinner, never packed her bag & taken her for the day, never looked after her for a full day alone, never washed a bottle.... Doesn't know what medicines she needs, doesn't know what she eats, what her routines are, where different items of her clothing etc are kept.
On days that I am extremely ill he has a way of making me feel so bad that even though I can barely function I will get up & just get through it anyway because he has 'too much work to do' to help... On days when it's impossible for me to move, he will call his parents to help instead of helping himself. This doesn't happen a lot, 99% of the time, I grin & bare it.
He calls me lazy & tells me I don't want to get better.
I've had surgery after surgery, seen Doctor apon Doctor. I want nothing more than to be healthy for my little girl but unfortunately my body doesn't agree.
He takes her for 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday & calls it 'baby sitting'.... Babysitting? His own daughter?
AIBU or should I expect more from the person I plan to spend the rest of my life with. If it not be for me, for his daughter who adores him??
Thanks!
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AIBU?
To expect a little more help?
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QueenImpatient · 14/05/2016 12:04
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