To email school back and point out they've spelt her name wrong?

[Moonlightceleste]

This could be complicated, bear with me. DD1 goes by a nickname which is unusual, but is well known and spelt with the well known spelling. Her actual given name is uncommon even in its own culture, which does not use the Latin alphabet. Therefore when written in the Latin alphabet the way DD1s name is spelt, it looks like a syllable should be pronounced slightly differently than it actually is. DD1s nickname starts with the same syllable and is spelt the way its pronounced. Nickname is on her books, peg etc at school but given name is on school records.

I've had an email from school about DD1 which refers to her by her given name, with an extra letter in it so its spelt the way its pronounced. So it's spelt wrong. We have been through this with them over report cards etc when she first started at this school over a year ago, they did amend it on their records because it's been fine ever since. Would it be really petty to email back and point out the misspelling?

[NashvilleQueen]

Id leave unless you genuinely think it's anything other than an honest mistake. It's only an email. If it was anything more formal then I'd possibly correct.

[TheFuckersBitingMe]

Definitely. Think of how many students attend that school, how many pupils in your DDs class, how many hours each week each Teacher and TA put into providing an education for her. Be grateful they communicate with you. It's a name. In the big scheme of life nobody ever died because a school incorrectly wrote a name on an email. YABU.

[Sirzy]

If you give a child an unusual name, from a different culture surely you have to expect that it will be mispelt sometimes?

They won't have time to check the spelling every time.

[RaisinGirls]

I'd leave it. It's a genuine mistake and they know who she is and the reports / letters refer to her progress etc. it would be different if you felt they were confusing her with someone else.

As someone who has both a first and surname which are constantly misspelt I'd recommend letting it go as an issue at an early age as it's going to happen forever so you may as well shrug and accept it as no harm or I'll intention is ever behind it.

[AliMonkey]

Depends. If it's a personal email just to you I would let it lie but point out if it happens again (and if reply needed then make sure you use her full name in it). If it's a parentmail type email to everyone but with each including child's name then it must be spelt wrong in their admin system so worth correcting.

[GrimmauldPlace]

I'd leave it. DD's name is always being misspelled but that's our fault for using a more unusual spelling. Although a few weeks ago I did email her preschool correcting her name but that was only because they'd misspelled it on her funding form and I didn't know if that would affect them claiming the hours back. But even then I felt bad correcting them!

[RiverTam]

Change it. There is never any excuse for this kind of thing, I don't care if the name is from Mars, it should be spelt correctly.

[Moonlightceleste]

It doesn't really need a reply so I would be replying to point out the misspelling and say very little else. I don't want to get back into a situation where everything that comes home with her given name on it is misspelt, but I don't want to be that parent either. We didn't choose her name, we did abbreviate it. But even if it was spelt phonetically in English it would still be a name most people hadn't seen before.

[WreckingBallsInsideMyHead]

If you're going to email I word it that you're just checking they've got the correct spelling on their records as the email has mixed up her nickname and official name

[Moonlightceleste]

Thanks wreckingball, I might do that. I don't want to post her name on here, think her name is Francesca and she is known as Chesca, so school are spelling it Franchesca. Not a brilliant example because her nickname isn't the last half of her given name so it's not quite so logical, but you get the idea.

[GreatFuckability]

yes, i agree with wreckingball, i'd want to confirm it was correct on records.

[MuddlingMackem]

What wrecking said.

If it is possible to do without it sounding stupid reply thanking them for their email and asking if they can please check that her name is still spelt correctly on her official records.

And to the previous posters who have learnt to shrug at people getting their name wrong, you shouldn't have to put up with it; it's common courtesy to pronounce and spell people's names correctly and it really isn't asking too much of them.