Just that really. DD is 3, turning 4 in August. DC2 due end of July. DD was born at home, very easy, very straightforward. The plan has always been to homebirth this next one. DH thinks DD will be traumatised if she stays for the birth and we should call family to come and get her as soon as I go into labour. I think that's ridiculous (not least because if it kicks off in the night she will be asleep for most of it anyway!) and that she should stay at home and we'll see how we get on - if she or I find it stressful or distressing, we'll call for her to be picked up.
Possibly relevant - labour with DD was v quick in the end, 2.5 hours active labour. I was pretty quiet and didn't do a lot of howling, screaming etc. Have never sheltered DD from the realities of life (she has been to my grandad's funeral, she knows that babies come out of mummies' bits, etc) and she isn't prone to scaring/worrying.
DISCLAIMER before anyone starts - I am not an idiot. Obviously if things change before labour, or go wrong during, I will be straight off into hospital. Baby's and my health are top priority in all of this. I also know that first labours don't necessarily predict second labours. I am currently very low risk and have no reason at the moment to suspect anything will go amiss.
So AIBU to think DD might as well stay at home rather than packing her off the instant I feel a twinge? Or is DH right and I'm completely in the wrong??
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To have DD at my homebirth?
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FourForYouGlenCoco · 08/05/2016 10:12
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