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to bin all the dummies?

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HowLongTillTippingPoint · 07/05/2016 14:38

My son just turned 2 and he has had a dummy since he was born. He was in special care and had no sucking reflex so we had to give him one to learn. I don't mind him having them and he only has them when going to sleep but he has recently started to chew holes into them which is dangerous. We bought a pack of new ones on Monday and they both already have holes in. Is the best option for stopping dummies to just bin them all and go cold turkey? Any tips? Confused

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Woobeedoo · 07/05/2016 14:48

I tried cold turkey. It was hell. I never knew my then 2 year old would scream and tantrum quite the way he did. If you think you can put up with that, go for it (I know I couldn't. Didn't realise a 2year old could turn such a shade of red).

I left it a few weeks and then cut a tiny V into the tip of each of his dummies - it takes away the nice boingyness of them. I left them like that for 3 days, then whilst holding the teat flat, cut a small slice across gave them back, waited 3 days, cut a bigger slice, etc. It took 2 weeks, I felt a gradual withdrawal would be better than a fast and furious one.

In the end it was this insane tiny stump of dummy and the mouth guard piece. My little boy was determined to try and hold the thing in his mouth but after about 20 seconds took it out, looked at it, held it to me and said "Broken". I said if it's broken to put it in the bin, so he willingly did. Told him as he'd been a good boy he would get a toy and a few days later bought him some small toy cars "for bring a good boy and throwing away your dummy".

He's been dummy free now for about 4 months.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do it!

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 07/05/2016 15:26

Dd had a dunny from very small. To build up tongue strength after cutting her tongue tie.
She started biting them as she approached 2.
So I stopped giving them to her. Said they were broken.
First night, she asked for it. I reminded her it was broken.
Same with second night. After that, it was never mentioned again.

Try it for a couple of days. See how yours copes.
If it works, great. If not, try bagging them up for a new baby or the dummy fairy or the toy swap.

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HowLongTillTippingPoint · 07/05/2016 15:43

He's just gone down for a nap and I didn't give him a dummy which resulted in a horrible tantrum so I kind of did what you suggested WooDeeBoo but I cut them across where he had already bitten a hole in them so they are automatily not able to stay in his mouth now. I showed him them and said they were broken and he tried to put them in his mouth and then screamed and cried. It was almost like he was mourning? Is that silly? I suppose he's had them every day since he was born so it's a big loss for him. He kept screaming and shouting no, no, no and putting them in my hand as if he thought I could fix them :( He finally fell asleep with me sat next to him stroking his hair but I think that was just because he was so knackered. :(

If he wasn't chewing holes in them I'd leave him with them for longer but I can't risk him chewing a piece off and choking so this has to happen :(

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