My ds spends a day a week with my father at my parents house. Extremely grateful for this support, ds loves it and I am very close to my parents, but today feeling really quite miffed. DM wanted to put a pond in their garden, I suggested to DM that I thought this was a bad a idea as DS2 is only just coming up 3 and a very head strong and inquisitive child who is obsessed with water and fish. DF immediately agreed, saying that Ds had the run of the house and garden and he knew it was safe, he knew Ds would be in the pond immediately and worried about the risk. I suggested maybe they could wait a year, both agreed that this was a risk to DS and would wait till ds was a little older. It was all a very happy, amicable conversation. Just phoned DF and he informed me he now has built a pond and filled it - 8ft across and 2ft deep apparently. When I repeated what he had said back to him his response was 'well you all grew up with ponds and no child had died yet.' - of course this is highly reassuring - not! I know ds is given quite a free rein at my parents and knowing the house and garden are safe I've never minded this - but now I'm annoyed. I know I cannot tell what they can or cannot have in their garden but I'm upset because of the conversation that proceeded this and everyone agreed and recognized it as a risk to my son which doesn't now seem to matter or count. I question whether ds is now going to be safe there.
I should also say I've had a damn awful day, feeling very highly strung and really emotional so probably not being as rational as I should!
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RaaRaaToday · 05/05/2016 19:55
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