I need to vent somewhere as I can't speak about this in rl.
When I was 14 I was a bit off the rails, I was in with a bad crowd and we ended up getting involved with some older men. I was a bit lost really.
There was one in particular who was in his 20s. My friend and me would pretend that we were staying at each others houses and go to stay with him and his mate, looking back I'd say it was more abuse. He knew my age, I didn't even really like him I just wanted to fit in and feel grown up I suppose. They'd give us alcohol, he'd say he was going to get me pregnant, it was all so horrible really.
He was really quite weird all nice one minute and suddenly turned on us a few times, he beat his friend up one night for no apparent reason and he'd like block our way to get out or make really violent threats completely unprovoked. I was too young and naive to even feel properly scared at the time. It probably seemed like an episode of Eastenders.
I only saw him a few times then my dad found out and called the police and it was all stopped. My dad was convinced that the men were trying to get us into prostitution. I don't think the police were very interested at the time, in fact I seem to remember them saying how I'd probably sneak off again and so perhaps my mum and dad should consider meeting him. This was quite a long time ago but that was how they acted.
It's all a rather unpleasant memory that I try not to think about most of the time. I'm married now with my own dc. I can't help thinking about it but I wish it never happened.
There was something in the papers recently someone with the same surname committed an horrific crime, I googled his name as I thought I wouldn't be surprised if they're related. Anyway it turned out from a quick google that he is serving life for killing his wife in a very cold blooded way and in front of her child. It wasn't recent it was a number of years ago now, but it turned out years before that, he'd attempted to do the same thing to another girlfriend and served a sentence, and not long after I'd known him.
It's really disturbed me, that I've been that close to a murderer, and I suppose thinking that it could have been me. Then I feel really angry that after having sex with a teenage girl, and attacking a different woman he was allowed out to go on and kill and leave a poor child without their mother.
I'm not looking for sympathy but it just seems he spent his adult life hurting women.
He's serving a long sentence but he will only be in his 50s when he's out again.
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Wherearethewottingers · 24/04/2016 22:46
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