I'll try to keeps this as succinct as possible without drip feeding.
I have a friend ive known since school, so around 20 years. Let's call him Tom. We've been there for each other when needed over the years: break ups with our partners, my depression, the passing of his dad, his mums MH issues, huge guilt issues he has about it his family stuff, etc.
A couple of years ago he got involved in ForeverLiving, & tried to recruit me, under the pretence of practicing his presentations on me, then as 'an answer to all my job woes' (who doesn't sometimes get frustrated at work, right? But its fine). I said no thanks, as it wasn't for me. I politely laughed off subsequent mentions of working for with him.
I've don't get involved in that side of his life whatsoever - I don't agree with what he does: he used some inheritance money to buy a car, but let's on that its because of FL. He lives in a mortgage-free house (his parents paid), his mum does the housework & let's on that he's got a great lifestyle because he's got no mortgage to pay and other consultancy jobs to fund him because of FL.
I have tried to remain there for him whenever he needs me, but it has since felt like every conversation gets turned around to aloe bloody vera, and therefore the friendship now feels a bit one sided. He'll call me up about a problem & I'll happily chat/reassure him etc., but after me having surgery and some side effects of some drugs, all I got was a f/book message recommending which FL products I try. It annoys me because Tom is a smart guy - studied at uni & a science background, yet he repeatedly gets sucked into these spurious claims.
But recently, Tom has been posting about ditching those who don't agree with you/hold you back/don't share the same vision to get ahead in life. A recent one (shared from a guy who promotes himself as a MLM success promoter) said that strangers are more likely to help you achieve your goals, than those who know you as they can't accept they're still stuck where you don't want to be. I indicated I found that hurtful, to which he replied "truth hurts [winky smiley]".
It's not the only post ive found hurtful (apparently, depression is living in the past, anxiety is worrying about the future, peace is living in the present ). Given his own DMs MH issues, I thought he'd be more sensitive.
So I'm feeling 'right fine, lets see if these strangers are there for you when you need them' - AIBU? Or should I just ignore and wait for the big fall-out when the wheels fall off this whole FL for him ?
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Am I reading too much into this? My MLM friend
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Greyponcho · 18/04/2016 08:03
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