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SurroMummy13 Sun 17-Apr-16 12:15:22

This is likely in the wrong section but don't care atm.

Since last Friday it's been shit in my home. My daughter has been ill since last Friday (8th )and the lack of sleep has been ridiculous.

Tues my DH got a call saying FIL is in hospital dying (it was sort of expected) so he left work and we drove there (70miles). Not a place for a poorly child to be, not even suitable if she wasn't poorly so we stayed a couple hours, said goodbyes then I drove home with my daughter. DH stayed till thurs when we drove over to pick him up.

Wednesday I fell ill, but Thursday still did the 145 mile round trip to pick him up. FIL still ill but stable.

Since then it's blurred into one, barely any sleep, throwing up, runs, house is a state because any time I move I'm nauseous. Not eaten much as all and lost 4lbs.

Doing the minimum for my daughter but it's not enough. Honestly trying my best but nauseous constantly. She's better now except from a cough so she wants to run about and play. No one else to care for her.

And now we got a phone all at 5:45am from the hosp saying FIL has taken a turn for the worst and my DH shot over there this morning, been given his last rights and he's likely to be dead soon.

AIBU to want this fucking week over with? Wanna feel better before my DH gets home so I can care for him, comfort him. Care for my baby girl without blowing chunks every time I make food for her?

I've no one who can care for my daughter, DH is obviously with his DF. My DM is working (but poorly anyway) and feel like been relying on my DF a lot. There's no one else. Should I just ask my DF? He was due to be watching het tomorrow while I was at work but no longer working...

MrsMainwaring Sun 17-Apr-16 12:24:15

Ask him to have her
You need a rest for a couple of hours
Be kind to yourself

liberatedwine Sun 17-Apr-16 12:31:37

You poor thing flowers

I'd phone round my friends and ask for help, you can return the favour when you are well again.

Once childcare is sorted, bath and bed, you hear?

wheresthel1ght Sun 17-Apr-16 12:48:16

Definitely ask df or any friends if they can have her even if just for a few hours. You will feel loads better after a decent sleep and a hot bath.

thanksbrew for you via your week has been awful. I hope you are better soon and sympathies to your family on the loss of fil

SurroMummy13 Sun 17-Apr-16 14:06:23

My dad has taken her to a play centre for a little while.

SurroMummy13 Sun 17-Apr-16 14:07:12

Thank you for being understanding. I thought I was going to get slated as I feel I'm being selfish.

SurroMummy13 Mon 18-Apr-16 07:44:13

- FIL passed last night.

- now lost 7lbs since Wednesday because been ill.

- surrogacy agreement has gone tits up. No longer going to be a surrogate. (Feking heartbroken)

wheresthel1ght Mon 18-Apr-16 18:16:39

Oh sweetie that's awful.

Sending you you some very unmumsnetty hugs as well as thanksthankscakecakechocolatechocolate

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