I have had a relatively up and down relationship with my mum in general. Sometimes we get on ok, other times she drives me round the bend.
I find that she constantly talks over me, like I will start saying something and she will just start talking immediately over me. She also doesn't listen to what I'm saying, I will say something - make an observation or something - and then a few moments later she will say the same thing which proves she doesn't listen/hear what I say. I find this particularly irritating! I've just spent today on trip out with her and my dad. She spent quite a lot of time bitching about my dad and complaining about how grumpy he is (she is always berating him so am not surprised he 'snaps' sometimes tbh).
Today, me, my 4 yo DD and my parents went out on a day trip. We stopped off at a cafe around 12:30, whereby my mum didn't want to eat any lunch there so we just had drinks. We then decide that we were going to go to an animal park with DD so we will eat there as there is a cafe there. We talked about the cafe there on the way up in the car. We get there just after 2:15pm, walk around a bit and then I say, right we need lunch. DD says she is hungry too. For some reason my Dad has gone AWOL so we make our way to the cafe, my mum turns round and goes off so I order lunch for me and DD thinking she will be back with my Dad. Anyway, they never reappear. My mum comes back, quite huffy saying that we have 15 minutes to finish eating and for looking round the animal park as we need to leave just after 3pm. I am a bit by this as we have only just got here and have hardly had a look around. Me and DD finish our lunch, and as I felt it was unfair that we go to the animal park and not see many of the animals go and find some. We find my mum who says that we had not agreed to eat at the cafe there, that she and Dad wanted something 'nicer' to eat and said that I had just gone and ordered the food without consulting anyone and that I was selfish. Anyway I say that we had agreed to eat at the park, that had been agreed earlier and that in any case it was 2:30pm by the time me and DD sat down with our food which I think is a bit late for lunch. If we had looked around the park, i.e. for an hour or so, then got in the car, we could have been sitting down for 'lunch' sometime after 4pm! My mum told me to stop raising my voice despite the fact that I was talking normally! I just didn't really know what she was talking about and also annoyed that she couldn't see where I was coming from regarding being hungry. DD was saying she was hungry and I didn't think it was fair on her. We eventually find dad, who was eating a sausage roll from the cafe.
Anyway, I know it's petty but it just really annoyed me. AIBU?
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OhGodNotAnotherUserName · 03/04/2016 20:05
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