I have an issue with a friend and I really don't know what to do. She's had a history of emotionally abusive relationships and has two 3 DC, two from previous relationships and one from current relationship. This is relevant by the way.
From what she's told me her current DP is an absolute arse. They've been together a year and are getting married in December. He refuses to help with DC3 (his DC they have together) who is 3 months, refuses night feeds (wakes her up when it is his turn), ignores DC3 when he needs fed/changed so he can watch football, doesn't bother with other 2 DC as they're not his but is more than happy to discipline with a firm hand, the 2 DC in my opinion seem to be afraid of him. They are timid and hesitant around him, I've watched him beckon one of them over to play and the DC was so hesitant it was like watching a frightened animal ready to bolt! He takes any money she gets from the DC (child benefit, child tax) to spend on himself but scolds DF if she dares buy something for herself! She buys him everything for his birthday 150 pounds worth of things and he buys her nothing, not even a card. She's not allowed to go anywhere without him as it causes him to huff and whine like a child and mither her about it. She says he always makes her out to be the villain so that she'll do things. Currently he has gotten laid off work and can't be arsed finding another job.
She's split with him 5 times now, came to me and said the same thing over and over that she's not happy but the end result is always the same....she goes back. Now they're trying for another baby because he wants a son to carry on his name, she's not sure she wants this as she's exhausted taking care of DC and baby on her own but is doing it to please him. What do I do? How do I help her? Any advice would be appreciated as it's incredibly upsetting and frustrating.
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MissMarvoloRiddle · 31/03/2016 02:11
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