Hi everyone!
Aargh trying not to put too much detail in here as this could out me, but still want to be as clear and accurate as possible!!!
This situation is still hypothetical for now, but just wanted to post on here for some advice and suggestions please
I'm applying for teacher training courses at the moment but with deferred entry, so if successful, I wouldn't be starting until September 2017. The courses I'm most interested in involve teaching in the classroom from day one. I think that would suit me well out of the options available, as I have previous teaching experience.
My DCousin is also planning her wedding at the moment, and would like to get married next year. The earliest date looks like it could be May/June 2017. She is British and her DP is British, but they would like to get married abroad and have found several venues they really like.
One of the venues is unfortunately fully booked for most of the year, but with openings for midweek weddings in September 2017.
This is still a hypothetical AIBU (actually more of a WWYD, with me requesting advice/suggestions about the situation. )
If my DCousin is having a midweek wedding abroad in September next year, I'm worried about how I can get time off from the teacher training - particularly if it would involve teaching students from day one. My understanding is that (rightly) I wouldn't be given time off (say 3, 4 days) to attend a family member's wedding in term time.
However, I am very close to my cousin and our relationship is much more like a close sisterly relationship. I've been asked to be a bridesmaid at the wedding, and would of course really love to go as my family will be going and I would ideally like to be there anyway as she is a very close family member.
We spoke earlier today by phone, and I mentioned my situation in passing (ie. my training possibly not starting until just around her wedding date etc., and me possibly not being allowed time off, so all still hypothetical and not set in stone yet.) She was very understanding about it.
The last thing I want to do of course is to hurt her feelings in any way and to make her think that I would not be able to make her wedding. I told her that I would really love to go to her wedding and will of course do my best to come.
I mentioned the possibility of October half term for the wedding (please dont flame me for this - just a suggestion. I fully understand it's her wedding and her and her DP's choice in terms of everything, from dates to location and catering etc.)
However, October half term may be slightly too late for the wedding as it will be abroad (southern Europe, so will probably be much colder, not as sunny). Also, I (and perhaps my DCousin too) don't know if the venue is still fully booked then or not. Of course, I realise that holidays would be a much busier time as well in terms of guests and demand anyway.
Sorry for the really long post!!
Aside from me feeling that IABU for posting this when it is still so hypothetical (my circumstances/the wedding date or location could still of course change), WWYD in this situation? Do you think in these circumstances, I could still go to the wedding?
If I get definite offers this year for teacher training, I will of course let the providers know about this situation as soon as possible and ask them ASAP what their particular policy or outlook is although I realise they will probably, and quite understandably, say I couldn't go
Just posting on here for a bit of perspective really. Thank you so much in advance
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Tailypo · 27/03/2016 14:42
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