Brother

[Whattodowithaminute]

My brother (who lives abroad) and his GF are in town but he didn't let me know-only know he's here because of FB updates. Would have made an effort to meet him for a coffee at least. Haven't seen him since Xmas, I have 2 children and no local family and he knows I feel socially isolated at times. AIBU to feel a bit miffed?

[NynaevesSister]

No you aren't BU! Is there a back story? Do you keep in touch outside of FB?

[waffilyversati1e]

Are you ok? I would be really upset. Is there a reason he might not have been in touch?

[RitaVinTease]

YANBU. Thats not a nice thing to do to anyone.

[Pinkheart5915]

I would feel a bit upset if my brother hadn't said he was in my area and hadn't asked to grab a coffee. Me and my brother are very close always have been.
Are you and your brother close?
Are you in contact often?

[FigMango1]

Yanbu is there any reason for him doing this? Maybe it's a very short trip or something work related and she accompanied him?

[Katenka]

I think you could bu.

Maybe he promised his gf and weekend for just the two of them. Or may have loads of plans so didn't mention it so you wouldn't get upset. Which isn't the best way to deal with it, but happens.

[SaucyJack]

Depends how he uses FB I guess.

Plenty of young'uns would think that by posting that he was back in his home town, he was letting people know.

[Chocolatteaddict1]

Yeah I'd be pissed off. Why has he done this?

[Whattodowithaminute]

I don't know why... Think that's why I'm upset. We normally talk and would certainly make the effort to see each other. I would also completely understand if he had a packed schedule but just said he was over but unfortunately won't make a catch up this time... Think I'm annoyed that the first I knew was a FB update. He's not that young anymore; more 40's than teens

[NerrSnerr]

That would annoy me. It reminds me of when I was at university, my brother was a couple of years older at the same uni and my sister came to visit him. For some reason he told her I was busy that weekend but he actually didn't tell me she was there. It was only when his friends told me how cool she was that I knew she had visited. She was as confused as me but he just shrugged and said he thought I would be busy.