Hi all,
I'm a very long-time lurker but I've decided to sign up and get some advice of my own. Excuse the length of this!
Backstory is, I'm on ESA at the moment with newly diagnosed bipolar (I'm also aspie, diagnosed just over a year ago). Ex and I decided to separate January '15 and he finally moved out last July and I had a breakdown. The separation was amicable and we tried to maintain the very good friendship that we had always had, but it hasn't really worked out like that as he tends to take his stress out on me by being grumpy and defensive. I'm very introverted and collected so my depression and manic episodes I keep to myself so he isn't responding to my behaviour, he's just always dealt with his issues that way.
I have our 2 DS's, 7 and 5, Sunday to Thursday morning then ExDH has them until either Saturday teatime or Sunday morning when he drops them off with me. We wanted 50/50 contact but there was no way his job would have allowed more flexible working.
World Book day is obviously on his day so a few weeks ago I reminded him and mentioned that they needed costume sorting out. I'm always very careful to approach things gently as his default mode with me is a bit prickly.
Yesterday he said I should sort the costumes as he 'works all week' and I have much more free time. I said no as I didn't want to set a precedent for him palming off stuff onto me as he has done so in the past. I also asked what he'd do about things like this when I am working (which I'll hopefully be able to do in a month or so now my medication is stable).
AIBU? I help him out with dentist appointments etc in his days so I'm not completey uncooperative, but I really resent the insinuation that I do nothing all day and he's run off his feet. I'm doing my best to run a house on my own and get myself better. He has a gf to help him too.
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AIBU?
For not helping exDH with World Bookday costumes?
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MattBerrysHair · 26/02/2016 09:33
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