Hi, just asking opinions please. My sister keeps nagging me to arrange play dates for my dd to have school friends round after school or in the holidays. She has 2 kids, both considerably older than my dd. My dd started reception in September. She is one of the youngest in the class, but has had a positive start and made friends, give or take a few girly squabbles. She didn't know many others in her class from nursery so before she started, I invited one mom we knew, plus her kids for a play date as she didn't know anyone in the class either. She accepted but then explained she couldn't because she'd forgotten it was someone's birthday. Fair enough. I didn't rearrange because I didn't want to be too pushy, but I did mention that a few moms were meeting in the local soft play the week before school but she declined the invite. Nothing was ever rearranged after this and I never contacted her again.
Before Xmas, I got chatting to another mom outside the gates, it was friendly and lighthearted. Her dd was having a party one weekend, but I text her a few days beforehand to explain we couldn't bring my dd after all but did she want to meet up for a play date over the holiday so I could pass on the gift we'd bought. She said yes, but it never got arranged as she was busy with her newish baby. Fair enough.
Then, before half term I asked another mom if she fancied popping round with her dd over the hols and she said yes. I don't have to tell you what happened... I told her the 2 days we were free but she already had plans those days. My sister keeps pushing the issue but, having been rebuffed 3 times, I'm embarrassed to tell her that no one wants to come round and play. I know this will sound like I'm utterly paranoid but I'm starting to wonder if it's because I'm overweight (BMI 40+). I'm friendly when I do the school run (2 or 3 mornings a week) and I get involved at parties. I have no issues chatting and I am well liked by good people both in and out of work. I think it's something I'm obviously sensitive about, but my super sociable sister crams her kids half terms to maximum capacity and it makes me feel like I'm not doing enough for my dd, when in truth i am trying. AIBU to wonder what the issue is? Im starting to dread the school run a tiny bit now in case people are sniggering. Am I too needy, or is it too early to arrange play dates (this was my initial thoughts, but mommy-guilt got the better of me). These moms I've discussed don't mix with each other - 2 are very quiet and don't stick around much to chat with others, but one knows a lot of the other moms. God, it's as bad as being back at school myself!!!
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wibblypig1 · 17/02/2016 16:14
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